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How Much Do Wedding Gifts Cost? The Ultimate Guide for Guests and Couples

Wedding gifts are something that can leave many of us racking our brains, whether you’re a guest who’s been invited to a wedding or you’re about to get married at your very own wedding.

From the point of view of a guest, how do you know what to buy and how much you should spend on a gift?

From the point of view of a couple getting married, how much is too much when it comes to creating a registry, and can you simply ask for cash?

The good news is that everyone is in the same position as you, because understanding how much to spend on wedding gifts is a confusing topic in general. So, in this post, we’re going to explore everything to do with the cost of wedding gifts, including how much you should spend as a wedding guest, what to ask for if you’re a couple getting married, and how to approach the awkward topic of asking for money.

1. You’re a guest going to a wedding

We get it, you’ve been invited to a wedding and you’re not sure how much to spend on a gift for the happy couple – we’ve all been there. There are so many unwritten rules as to what is the right amount to spend, which can vary depending on how well you know the couple, whether or not you’re in the wedding party, whether you’re an evening or a day guest and whether you’re in a couple yourself.

See, we told you it’s confusing!

So, if you’re umming and ahhing over what to buy a couple as a gift for an upcoming wedding, below should give you a rough idea as to how much you might spend.

How much should you spend on a wedding gift?

The most straightforward and simple answer to this question is you should spend as much as you’re able to and feel comfortable with. But, it’s only natural to worry about how much is enough or right and whether it’s in line with how much others are spending. Paranoia can sometimes get the best of us, with questions like ‘what if they don’t think I’m as generous as everyone else?’ creeping into our minds.

When the time comes for the happy couple to open their gifts, when they finally get to yours and see what you’ve given them, thoughts like these won’t even cross their minds. You haven’t been invited to their wedding because they think they’ll get something out of it – you’ve been invited because they want you there. Whether or not you give them a gift, and regardless of how much it is or what it’s worth, it’s simply a gesture from you to celebrate their marriage.

But, if you really want a rough idea as to how much you should spend on a wedding gift, the below guide should give you an approximation. Just remember, this isn’t set in stone and is by no means a rule you should stick to.

Wedding Gift Cost Infographic
Cost suggestions based on how well you know the couple

What’s the average amount to spend on a wedding gift?

Many guests will spend between £40 – £100 on a wedding gift. This is a fairly typical amount; however, it totally depends on your own circumstances and how well you know the couple. For example, if you’re immediate family but are on a tight budget, the couple won’t mind one bit if you don’t spend £100 on a gift. Similarly, if you’re a colleague then the couple will absolutely not expect a luxury gift from you.

Should you give cash as a wedding gift?

Some wedding guests don’t feel overly comfortable with giving cash as a gift, particularly those who may have spent their lives gifting toasters and knife sets in the past. But, during a time when a quarter of couples live together before marriage, many couples already have the appliances and homeware they need.

It also goes without saying that, after throwing the most expensive and luxurious party of their lives, couples will be grateful for a little extra cash. Plus, after a year of chaotic planning, a honeymoon after the wedding is always appreciated, and a cash gift will help make that happen.

In fact, some couples aren’t shy about asking for money instead of gifts, and this is absolutely fine, too. They may even have included information about this on their invitation or their wedding website if they have one, with information on where a bank transfer can be made before the big day.

At the end of the day, when newlyweds are gifted money they’re given far more freedom to do what they want, whether it’s go on their dream honeymoon, buy the exact toaster they’ve had their eye on, or decorate the spare room – all of which you could help make happen by giving a cash gift.

Popular wedding gifts and how much they cost

If you’re keen on giving a gift to a couple but you’re not sure where to start, here are a few ideas and a rough idea of how much they cost, to give you a little bit of inspiration.

Personalised artwork

A lovely way to mark the occasion, personalised artwork can be displayed to remind a couple of their big day, such as a map showing where they first met or a neon sign that spells out their new shared surname. Costs start from around £40.

Cookware

Perhaps a little old-fashioned, but who doesn’t love a nice casserole dish or a new set of pans? Prices for these will start at around £50. For something extra luxurious, a La Creuset dish is a wonderful gift, but on the pricey side at around £150.

Kitchen appliances

This one may be a bit of a cliché, but new appliances like a kettle, toaster or microwave are great gifts for couples about to move into their first home together. Costs start from around £30 for basic appliances and go up from there. Or, for real extravagance, a KitchenAid mixer would be a real treat for a keen baker and costs around £280.

Personalised homeware

An exciting and unique gift for a newly married couple is a personalised item they can display or use. A chopping board, doormat, or set of mugs are fun and useful, with costs starting at around £35.

Experience vouchers

Treat the newlyweds to an overnight stay somewhere, or a luxurious meal for two in a fancy restaurant. Or for more adventurous couples, something more exhilarating like a helicopter flying experience or rock climbing will get their blood pumping. Costs start at around £120.

What if you can’t afford to buy a gift?

If you’re not in a position to buy a gift for a couple about to get married, then don’t worry. A wedding is a celebration, and a couple gets married to come together and share their love – not because they want a bunch of gifts. Plus, the couple will know that you’ve already gone to great lengths just to be at their wedding, such as by taking time off work, buying a new outfit, travelling and the cost of your accommodation. Simply spend as much as you feel comfortable with and don’t worry about what you think someone is thinking.

If you want to buy a gift and you’re looking for affordable options, check out our post featuring 50 wedding gift ideas for every budget, or for some money-saving tips, our post on how to save money on a wedding gift could help you save a few pennies.

2. You’re a couple getting married

Getting married is super exciting – not only do you get to come together to build a new life with the person you love the most, but you get to throw one heck of a party and invite all your family and friends, which costs an average of £20,775.

Another big bonus is that a lot of your guests will also want to give you gifts, which could range from small token gestures to huge, generous ones – it all depends on who they are, their relationship to you and – of course – their budget.

What should you include on your gift registry?

While not everyone is going to buy you a wedding gift, many of your friends and family will want to. But, many of them will likely be stumped and have no idea where to start – which is why a gift registry is a great idea. Websites such as The Wedding Shop make it quick and easy for you to put a gift registry together.

When putting your list together, you’ll need to be open to including a range of items that fit a range of budgets. Some great items to put on your list include:

  • Dinnerware set
  • Tupperware set
  • Artwork
  • Kitchen appliances
  • Experience days
  • Spa visit
  • Vases
  • Ornaments
  • Blankets
  • Pillows
  • Luggage

Basically, you can include anything on your gift registry that you and your new spouse will use and enjoy. However, it’s usually items the two of you will use together in your home, or as part of a shared experience, rather than, say, video games or a new pair of trainers for one of you.

If you’re not putting a wedding registry together but would still like to let your guests know what they could give you, read our post on wedding registry alternatives.

Is it rude to ask for money as a wedding gift?

While it’s definitely not rude to ask for money as a wedding gift, there are ways to approach it delicately. After all, asking for money can be awkward, but it’s absolutely fine to ask for cash instead of gifts. Iif you and your new spouse-to-be are already living together, you’ve probably got most of the things you need in and around your house, and you don’t want to risk ending up with five new toasters (unless you really love toast).

You could simply explain to your guests that, if they’re considering giving you a gift, a cash gift would be appreciated so you can go on your honeymoon or buy a new car or replace the leaky roof on the garden shed. Once they know why you’re asking for money, most of your guests won’t mind at all. But, don’t be surprised if one or two of your guests decide to give you a gift anyway.

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How Much Do Wedding Favours Cost? The 2024 Average Revealed

Wedding favours offer you the opportunity to provide your guests with a small gift or keepsake that they can take home (or eat!) and remember the time they spent celebrating with you on your big day.

But when you’re already spending thousands on your wedding, how much should you spend on wedding favours that are thoughtful, personal and something that your guests are going to appreciate?

Below, we’re going to take a look at the cost of wedding favours, including the average amount couples spend, how much some of the most popular wedding favours cost, and what factors can influence how much you might spend.

What are wedding favours and do you need them at your wedding?

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Wedding favours are small tokens or gifts that you give to the guests who come to share in your celebrations on your wedding day. They’re small, personal gestures that are used to express your gratitude and work as a little souvenir for your family and friends.

Favours don’t need to be expensive – many wedding favours cost around £1 each – but they act as a way for you to show your appreciation. Many couples even choose to put together DIY wedding favours, which can be anything from a packet of sweets to a custom-made Rubix cube (although something like this will set you back a lot more than £1).

Even the most affordable or DIY wedding favour options will add to your ever-increasing list of expenses, which is saying something when you consider that the average cost of a wedding in the UK is £20,775. Does that mean, if budget is a concern, it’s something you could cut to save a bit of money?

Do you have to do favours at your wedding?

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While favours aren’t something that your guests will expect – and certainly aren’t the reason they’re coming to your wedding – their absence may be noticed by some (but certainly not all). In fact, some of your guests may choose to not take their favour home at all, and if you’re gifting food or sweets, they may even be devoured before the first course is served at the breakfast.

If you’re looking to save budget, or it’s simply not something that interests you or fits with your style or theme of your wedding, then you shouldn’t feel pressured to provide favours simply to appease others or because it’s something you believe your guests expect – because they definitely don’t.

What’s the average cost of wedding favours?

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In the UK, the average amount spent by couples on wedding favours is around £160 in total. This might not be a huge amount when you consider your overall budget (it’s about 2% of what couples pay for the average wedding venue) but if you want custom, handmade favours or you’re inviting 120+ guests, that figure can be much higher.

Similarly, you could keep costs down while still honouring the tradition, by simply leaving a small packet of Love Hearts sweets for every guest. This would cost you much less than the average, with 250 packets costing around £17 (and leaving you with some to keep for yourself).

It’s also important to remember that low-cost wedding favours don’t need to be generic or boring. For more information, check out our blog post on 29 ideas for affordable wedding favours.

What are some popular wedding favour ideas?

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If you’re looking for some wedding favour ideas but you’re not quite sure where to start, the below guide will give you a rough guide for how much some popular wedding favours cost so you can gauge if they fit within your budget.

Edible favours

  • Retro sweets – You can pick up ready-made packs of retro sweets, or put together your own if you shop around to find cheap sweets in bulk. Costs start from £1 each.
  • Honeycomb – A real crowd pleaser, honeycomb not only looks great but is delicious too. Costs start from £1.50 each.
  • Fudge – Fudge is creamy and luxurious and is a fantastic way to satisfy your guests’ sweet tooth. Cost start from £2 each.
  • Hot chocolate kit – A unique favour that most of your guests won’t resist and can be presented in many creative ways. Costs start from £2.50 each.
  • Popcorn – A cheap and tasty favour that no one will turn their nose up at. Costs start from £1 each.
  • Mints – Mints offer a breath of fresh air. Costs start from £1 each.
  • Jellybeans – Sweet treats that are affordable and come in a variety of flavours. Costs start from £1 each.
  • Cake pops – Cake pops are a lot of fun and a handy way to give your guests a cakey hit if you don’t have a traditional wedding cake. Costs start from £1.50 each.
  • Marshmallows – Affordable, sticky and sweet. Costs start from £1 each.

Non-edible favours

  • Bubbles – Everyone loves bubbles! Plus, they’re super affordable. Costs start from less than £1 each.
  • Personalised playing cards – Massively personal and always something your guests will want to keep. Costs start from around £5 each.
  • Second-hand books – A great talking point that is hugely affordable. Costs start from around 50p each, or even less if you check out some local charity shops.
  • Pens, notepads or pencils – A practical favour for everyone. Costs start from £2 each.
  • Jewellery charms – A cute memento that can be used in a huge variety of ways. Costs start from £3 each.
  • Wildflower seeds – Not a personal favour, but is certainly thoughtful. Costs start from £1 each.
  • Charity donation – A hugely thoughtful and generous gesture. You can donate as much or as little as you like.
  • Soap/hand sanitiser – A useful and unique favour. Costs start from £2 each.
  • Scratchcards – An exciting way to get your guests talking. Plus, one of your guests could leave your wedding a lot richer (and hopefully they’ll share some with you!). Costs start from £1 each.
  • Personalised candles – Who doesn’t love a candle? Costs start from £2.50 each.
  • Personalised coasters – A really unique gift that will remind your guests of your big day whenever they sit down for a cuppa. Costs start from £3 each.
  • Personalised keyrings – Everyone has at least a couple of keyrings, and there’s always room for one more. Costs start from £2 each.
  • Disposable camera – Quite a retro favour these days, but it can be a lot of fun having the photos developed to see what happened while you weren’t around! However, disposable cameras are becoming more expensive, with costs per camera starting from around £15 (and of course the cost to develop after the wedding). It can be hugely worth it if you have the budget, though.

Is it cheaper to do DIY wedding favours?

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If you’re on a budget, it can be much cheaper to do wedding favours yourself. However, if you’re looking for highly personal or customised favours, such as personalised playing cards, you may find the DIY approach more challenging. If you haven’t done anything similar before, there’s also the risk of inconsistent quality.

If you’re looking for something simple, such as a bag of retro sweets, you should be able to put this together with little effort and without much room for error. It should save you some money, too.

What factors can impact the cost of wedding favours?

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When choosing wedding favours, as well as the type of favours you go for, there are several factors to bear in mind which can impact the overall cost.

  • Quantity – It may seem obvious, but the more guests you have the more you’ll have to spend on favours.
  • Personalisation – Highly personalised wedding favours will cost more than something you can grab off a shelf or make yourself.
  • Vendor – A small, independent vendor may have higher prices than a large company with hundreds of employees. However, the level of care and quality is also likely to be better from a smaller vendor.
  • Quality – The higher the quality of materials or ingredients you use, the more expensive your favours will be. Remember, your favours are only a token gift to your guests and they won’t be expecting something premium.
  • Presentation – Marshmallows or honeycomb may be fairly inexpensive, but if you choose to package them in a fancy box with ribbon they may not be inexpensive for long.
  • Season – Depending on what you go for, the time of year may play a part in cost. For example, during peak periods when gift companies are in demand, costs may be much higher.

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Wedding Gift Registry Alternatives

Not a fan of the traditional gift registry? No problem! There are plenty of great alternatives to physical wedding gifts, from honeymoon funds and charity donations, to memorable experiences to share with your partner, or even no gift at all! Read on for the full list (for more gift ideas, be sure to check out our top gift list ideas).

Honeymoon fund

Ask guests to contribute money towards your honeymoon expenses for a luxe getaway like no other. There are various options to choose from. Consider a flight to a room upgrade, as well as add-ons for the holiday itself, like a romantic beach dinner or boat and snorkeling trip. This is a great way for your loved ones to contribute towards a special shared experience, and make your honeymoon one to remember and cherish for years to come.

Charity donation

Choose a charitable cause that’s meaningful to you and ask guests to make a donation in your honour. Choosing a charity fund as a gift registry alternative is a great way to make a positive impact on the world, adding a purposeful touch to your wedding celebrations. Plus, if you choose a cause you’re passionate about, you can educate your guests about it and raise awareness, so it’s a win-win! The Wedding Shop has a great selection of well-known charities to choose from, from Cancer Research UK and Mind, to Oxfam and Save The Children. Any donations made to your chosen charity will be automatically sent on your behalf. Alternatively, you can create your own personal crowdfunding page, using a fundraising platform like JustGiving or GoFundMe.

Experience gifts

Create a wish list of experiences you would like to share together. Think romantic spa day, weekend getaway, cooking class, or luxury cinema experience. Choosing a gift experience as a gift registry alternative gives you the opportunity to bond with your partner and share lifelong memories. It also gives your guests the chance to give you something that truly reflects your interests and hobbies. Plus, experience gifts are often more versatile and flexible than traditional physical ones. You can redeem them at a time that works best for you, and look forward to them after your wedding.

Home down payment/home renovation fund

If you’ve not already bought a house together, why not create a fund to help you save for a down payment on a new home? Your friends and family will love having the chance to contribute to your future in a very practical and meaningful way. It’s a great alternative to a gift registry, because you can put the money towards a long-term investment and asset. This is particularly helpful if you’re first-time buyers and dreaming of homeownership. If you and your partner are already living together, you can use the cash contribution in other ways, for example, on a home renovation. Or you can be more specific, and ask for a kitchen or garden fund – the possibilities are endless!

Group gift

Some of your guests can come together to contribute towards a larger, more expensive, higher-value gift, such as a special piece of furniture or a new home appliance. Unlike traditional gift registries, which may only offer specific items, this gives your guests more choice, and the chance to help you buy something you need but can’t afford on your own. And rather than choosing from a pre-selected list, this way, your friends and family can personalise the gift to your tastes and needs. If you like surprises, this kind of wedding gift can also be a lot of fun to give and receive!

No gifts

You may prefer to have no wedding gifts at all, and choose to keep the focus on the celebration itself. After all, the presence of your loved ones at your wedding is arguably the greatest gift of all! If you like simplicity, this is a great alternative to a traditional registry. There’s no need to select, purchase and wrap individual gifts – so less stress for both you and your guests. It’s also a more sustainable option – no gifts means no waste or environmental impact, whether that’s the production and disposal of a physical gift, or the transportation involved in something like a gift experience. Requesting no gifts can also help your guests save money, especially if they’re already spending a significant amount on travel, accommodation or other expenses.

With all these alternatives, there are so many ways your guests can contribute to your wedding besides a gift registry. Whether it’s a cash contribution for your honeymoon or home, donations to a charity you love, memorable experiences, or just their presence, there’s something for everyone!

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Top Tips For Your Destination Wedding

A destination wedding can be a memorable and unique way to celebrate your special day with your friends and family. But planning one can be a daunting task! There are so many decisions to make and details consider. That’s why we’ve put together our top tips for planning a destination wedding. They’ll help you make your big day a success, no matter where you are in the world. From choosing the perfect wedding venue, to being aware of the legalities, we’ve got you covered.

1. Choose the right location

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The location you choose for your destination wedding is crucial. Consider factors like climate, accessibility, price and venue availability. You may want to choose a place that has a special meaning to you and your partner. How about where you first went on holiday together? Or somewhere with stunning, picture-perfect scenery for your wedding photos?

If you’re not sure where to start, check out our handy guide on the top 10 destination wedding locations. From a romantic Mediterranean beach wedding on a Greek island to a cosmopolitan urban getaway in New York, the world is your oyster!

2. Give your guests plenty of notice and information

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When planning a destination wedding, give your guests plenty of advance notice. This will allow them to make travel arrangements and organise their holiday time accordingly (particularly important for very far-flung locations). Send out save-the-date cards at least 6-8 months before the wedding to give your guests plenty of time to plan, and the invitations 3-4 months in advance.

Be sure to include all the important details on a separate information card along with the invitations themselves. We recommend the following as a bare minimum:

  • How to reach your destination and where to stay (include your venue’s address)
  • Information on the weather at the time of year (so your guests can plan their outfits)
  • Tips for places to visit and eat in the area (ask your venue for recommendations)

We recommend listing any extra wedding-related activities, like dinner the day before, or lunch the next day, on your RSVP card. That way, your guests can tick off which ones they’ll be attending.

3. Hire a specialist local wedding planner

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Hiring a local wedding planner can be a game-changer when planning a wedding abroad. They’ll help you create the perfect wedding itinerary and handle all the necessary logistics, so you can focus on simply enjoying your big day and being present in the moment.

A local wedding planner will have specialist knowledge of the area and wedding suppliers, and can help you navigate any language or cultural barriers. Let them serve as your personal directory of recommendations, from accommodations and restaurants, to activities and attractions.

4. Choose the right wedding dress and attire

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When it comes to deciding on your dress code, be sure to consider both the location and nature of your wedding. Depending on the destination, you might need to choose materials that are comfortable in the heat or cold, and shoes that are suitable for the terrain.

If you’re getting married on the beach or very hot country, consider wearing slip-on sandals or going barefoot for a more relaxed feel. If you’re getting married somewhere cold like Iceland, think long sleeves and plenty of warm layers you can change into if necessary.

5. Plan group and honeymoon activities

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An overseas wedding is a great opportunity to spend quality time with your guests. You can organise a rehearsal dinner or post-wedding lunch to extend the celebration and make a holiday of it. Plan group activities to create fun, memorable experiences. We recommend beach bonfires, water sports like snorkelling, hikes and day trips, or food and wine tastings.

Or plan activities for your honeymoon, to make the most of your flight tickets and journey! In fact, with honeymoons being a top splurge for newlyweds, combining your destination wedding with your honeymoon can be a great way to optimise both your budget and your time.

6. Don’t forget the legal details

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If you’re hoping to tie the knot in a foreign country, be prepared to navigate some legal requirements that might be different from what you’re used to in your home country.

  • Make sure your marriage or civil partnership is recognised by the law back home. This might involve getting certain licenses or translations of documents (for example, if you’re a Brit marrying abroad, a certificate of no impediment (CNI) from the UK government).
  • Make sure you follow all the necessary procedures in the country where you’re planning to get married abroad. You’ll need to reach out to the local authorities to learn what to do.

The bottom line is that you don’t want to get caught out by any legal technicalities that could put a damper on your big day. So be thorough with your research!

Planning a destination wedding requires a bit more effort than a traditional wedding at home, but the results can absolutely be worth it. By following these top tips, you’ll be well on your way to planning the destination wedding of your dreams with all of the joy and none of the stress.

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50 Wedding Gift Ideas 2023 for Every Budget

Whether you’re an engaged couple looking for cool ideas for your wedding gift list, or a guest wanting to source an extra special present, you’ve come to the right place! We’ve compiled a list of 50 unique and thoughtful wedding gift ideas that are sure to make any couple smile. From bespoke, personalised presents, to unforgettable gift experiences, there’s something for everyone – homebodies, foodies, art lovers, adrenaline junkies and more! Read on for the full list.

Wedding Gift Experiences

1. Theatre tickets to The Lion King for two – £144, Virgin Experience Days

For a spectacular theatrical experience like no other, look no further than Disney’s multi award-winning musical. It’ll make an ideal post-wedding date night for the couple.

2. A weekend getaway at The Bird (Bath, Hotel) – £290, Virgin Experience Days

Treat the couple to a two-night winter stay with breakfast at The Bird in Bath. The’ll stay in a cosy king room nestled just a short saunter from Bath’s main attractions.

3. A sunrise air balloon ride – £260, Virgin Experience Days

Let the couple take to the skies together from one of over 100 locations across the UK. They’ll see the sunrise from an unforgettable new perspective aboard one of Virgin’s iconic red balloons.

4. A wine tasting minibreak – £142, Virgin Experience Days

A tranquil one-night countryside break with a vineyard tour and wine tasting at Chapel Down Winery, featuring fine wines and picturesque views. Perfect for wine- and nature-loving couples.

5. A spa gift card – £250, Champneys Health Spa

With a gift card from Champneys, the couple can choose their own path to relaxation and rejuvenation. At-home products, tension-relieving treatment, or a complete romantic spa break!

6. A Russian spa experience for two – £150, Banya No.1

Tucked away in Shoreditch, Banya No.1 offers an authentic take on the Russian Spa. This 3-hour couple-friendly session comes complete with a private booth and table at the lounge cafe.

7. A gourmet dinner at a fancy restaurant – £250, Gordon Ramsay Restaurants

For the ultimate foodie wedding gift, give the couple a very special London dining experience. Treat them to an exquisite six-course tasting menu at Gordon Ramsay’s Michelin starred Pétrus.

8. A two-hour cooking class – £128, The Jamie Oliver Cookery School

Led by professional chefs, this hands-on two-hour course at The Jamie Oliver Cookery School is perfect for newlyweds. From Indian feasts to pasta masterclasses, the choice is theirs.

9. A kintsugi pottery class for beginners – £100, Class Bento

Give the couple the Japanese art of kintsugi at this unique London pottery class. They’ll each get to create a beautiful ceramic piece to take home with them and treasure.

10. A how-to-draw art class for beginners – £190, City Academy

A fun yet educational one-day beginners’ art class, perfect for the creatively-minded couples out there. They’ll have fun expressing themselves while developing their drawing technique.

Personalised Wedding Gifts

11. A personalised wedding guestbook – £35, Stori

What better way to commemorate the big day than with Stori’s personalised book-bound guestbook? You can collect everyone’s best wishes for the happy couple to share with them.

12. A bespoke wedding venue line drawing – £42, Letterfest

Letterfest’s wedding venue portrait is personalised with the couple’s names and wedding details in a handwritten font below. It’s a stylish illustration that makes the perfect wedding gift.

13. A personalised cheese board/serving platter – £27, The Rustic Dish

We love this personalised cheese board, which doubles as a serving board. Why not include some of the couple’s favourite cheeses in the mix for an extra special wedding gift?

14. A personalised silver plated photo frame – £20, Engravers Guild

A classic silver plated photo frame will keep the couple’s happy memories safe year after year. You can engrave it with a message of your choice for a very personal wedding gift.

15. Personalised date night cards – £18, Not On The High Street

These British-made personalised date night cards are a cheap but thoughtful wedding gift. With 52 surprise activities, both indoor and outdoor, the couple can spend exciting quality time together.

16. Personalised Mr and Mrs mug set – £25, Not On The High Street

These ceramic Mr and Mrs mugs can be printed with the couple’s surnames and wedding date. They’ll remember their wedding every time they have their morning coffee or afternoon tea!

17. Personalised Mr and Mrs indoor doormat – £22.50, Not On The High Street

This doormat can be personalised with the couple’s married names (Mr & Mrs / Mr & Mr / Mrs & Mrs) and their wedding date . A personal and welcoming introduction to their home!

18. A set of personalised kitchen aprons – £40, Not On The High Street

These high quality aprons are made of pure cotton and can be personalised with any name or message. A unique wedding gift for couples who love to cook or bake.

19. Personalised embroidered heart couples dressing gown – £40, Sparks and Daughters

This beautiful cotton dressing gown set makes a lovely personalised wedding gift (or cotton anniversary present). The couple can wear them after a bath or when relaxing at home together.

20. A hand-poured personalised candle – £20, Kindred Fires

This hand-poured natural soy wax candle, encased in frosted glass, makes a charming keepsake wedding gift. It can be personalised with the couple’s name, wedding date and a happy message.

Wedding Gifts for the Home

21. Matching Manon throw and cushion covers – £170, The White Company

This cosy and tactile lambswool-blend collection comes in a classic basket weave. It’s an all-seasons knit sure to bring comfort and joy to the recently married couple’s new home.

22. A classic cast iron Le Creuset casserole dish – £329, Le Creuset

You can’t go wrong with a classic Le Creuset dish – it’s great for one-pot wonders, and will last the couple a lifetime. We particularly love this limited-edition romantic hearts design.

23. A pink glass desk & table lamp – £198, Oliver Bonas

This handmade curved glass lamp from Oliver Bonas is the perfect way to lighten and brighten a couple’s new home. Its pink marbled design is unique to each piece.

24. A set of pink champagne flutes by Maison Balzac – £65, Liberty

These lovely pink glass champagne flutes are sure to elevate the couple’s dining display. They also offer the perfect excuse for using up any leftover bubbly from a Champagne Tower!

25. Vera Wang for Wedgwood Love Knots tealight holders – John Lewis, £52

These classic tealight holders make a beautiful, timeless wedding gift. It’s a great choice if you’re looking for a thoughtful wedding gift that combines functionality with style.

26. Capiz wall flower decoration – £78, Anthropologie

This gleaming wall flower, made from handcrafted capiz shells, is sure to give the newlyweds’ walls a touch of glamourous charm. A special piece to remind them of their special day.

27. A ceramic indoor hanging pot trio – £22.99, Hortology

These adorable baby dotty hanging pots are ideal for those green-thumbed couples who don’t have much outdoor space. They’re perfect for hanging herbs or little succulents in the kitchen.

28. A pack of 7 essentials gallery frame – £50, Dunelm

Let the couple show off their wedding photos with this set of black on-trend photo frames. To make their gift extra special, print seven of their favourite wedding day shots and put them in the frames.

29. The original Scratch Map – £20.95, Luckies of London

For couples who love to travel, the original Scratch Map is the perfect affordable wedding gift. Each country scratched off will symbolise a new adventure together, and look great on their wall too!

30. A leather memory box – £229, Life of Riley

This leather memory box is a nifty way for the newlyweds to their precious memorabilia and letters. Styled like a classic treasure chest, it’s a lovely keepsake wedding gift for the home.

Luxury Wedding Gifts

31. A luxury all-in-one wedding day hamper – £160, Fortnum & Mason

This joy-giving wedding hamper is filled with all sorts of celebration-ready goodies. From bubbles to tea to chocolates, everything was created with happy couples in mind.

32. The Velvetiser (white edition) – £99.95, Hotel Chocolat

This indulgent in-home hot chocolate machine is perfect for newlyweds. Let them enjoy a barista-grade drink as part of their morning ritual, or curl up on the sofa with a velvety cup in the evening.

33. Wedding Bells biscuit tin – £48, Biscuiteers

This Wedding Bells collection features an irresistible assortment of wedding-themed lemon biscuits in a keepsake tin. You can even personalise the heart biscuit with a message for the happy couple.

34. A Panasonic bread maker – £199.99, John Lewis

For couples who love creative yet hassle-free baking, look no further than an automatic bread maker. They can enjoy fresh bread and cakes every day without sacrificing quality time.

35. A year of flowers – £240, Bloom and Wild

Brighten up the couple’s home with a year-long flower subscription. Whether they choose the flowers themselves, or prefer to be sent a surprise, they’ll have a fresh delivery every 28 days.

36. The Adventure Challenge book (couples edition) – £49, The Adventure Challenge

The Adventure Challenge book will keep the couple’s date nights fresh and exciting year after year. Each new adventure is a mystery until it’s scratched off, making for unforgettable experiences!

37. Name twin stars gift – £69, World Star Registry

For a special and unique wedding gift, let the happy couple name their own stars. They’ll get matching certificates showing their stars’ co-ordinates, which they can track each night in real-time!

38. The Luxury Retreat Hamper – £179, The Newt in Somerset

Let the couple relive their honeymoon experience with a touch of at-home hotel luxury. The Luxury Retreat Hamper contains everything newlyweds need for a cosy yet indulgent night in together.

39. A bespoke wine subscription – from £36/month, The Grape Reserve

If you know the couple enjoys a drink or two, consider a monthly wine subscription gift. Each curated monthly selection comes with tasting notes, as well as a complementary recipe.

40. A projector for two – from £399.99

Give the couple a cinema experience on the go, with Anker’s Nebula Capsule portable projector. They can enjoy a romantic night watching movies together under the stars anywhere in the world.

Useful Wedding Gifts

41. The Ultimate Travel List – £19.99, Lonely Planet

Lonely Planet’s bestselling Ultimate Travel List is a must-have coffee table book for couples who love to travel. It ranks the world’s greatest places to visit, featuring 200+ awe-inspiring photos.

42. A large carry-on suitcase – £394, Monos

Monos’ award-winning, honeymoon-friendly suitcases will last the couple a lifetime, and come in 10 gorgeous colours. Their largest check-in case is perfect for a few weeks away in the sun.

43. The Couple’s Cookbook: Recipes for Newlyweds – £20, Cole and Kiera Photography

Written by husband and wife wedding photographer duo, Cole and Kiera Stipovich, The Couple’s Cookbook: Recipes for Newlyweds is a lovely primer for newlyweds starting their first home together. From easy weeknight meals to beautiful weekend brunches to dinner party delights, this is a fun, playful and useful wedding gift that will keep on giving.

44. A high and low parallettes set – £119.95, Mirafit

Help the sporty couples out there build up their own home gym! With a Mirafit high and low parallettes set, the couple can train together from the comfort of their living room.

45. A backpack picnic hamper for two – £49.99, Greenfield Collection

Let the couple enjoy lovely picnics together with this deluxe backpack hamper for two. It’s got all the essential accessories, plus plenty of space to accommodate food, drinks and containers.

46. An artisan KitchenAid mixer – £499, KitchenAid

Even the most kitchen-shy couples will want a KitchenAid mixer on their gift list – from whipped cream to mashed potatoes, it does it all. You can customise it further with an assortment of other useful attachments, like spiralizers or a pasta roller, for an even more personal wedding gift.

47. McGregor 5-piece gardening set – £35, Argos

 

If the couple are moving into a home with outdoor space, this 5-piece gardening set is ideal. Strong, durable, and built to last – these tools will keep their garden looking gorgeous!

48. A Smarter coffee machine – £199, Smarter

No gift list is complete without a coffee machine, but for a more unique wedding present, consider a lightweight Smarter coffee machine. With the Smarter App, the couple can set the strength and choose from two different modes, ‘filter’ and ‘grinder’, to achieve a flawless cup of coffee each time.

49. A scribble writing digital alarm clock – £15, Prezzybox

This scribble writing digital alarm clock doubles as a light-up memo pad – perfect for busy or forgetful couples! And at only £15, it’s a super cheap wedding gift, that’s super fun and useful!

50. An AirTag, £35 Apple

For couples moving into a new home together, a tactile Apple AirTag will provide a private and secure way to easily locate their most precious items…like their new housekeys!

There you have our top 50 wedding gift ideas for every budget. From homebodies and foodies, to nature lovers and adrenaline junkies, there’s something to delight every couple.

Wedding Gift List Guide – ft The Wedding Shop

One of the most exciting parts of planning your wedding is creating your wedding gift list. But with so many options to choose from, it can be overwhelming to know where to start and what to choose. That’s why we’ve put together this guide to help you create your perfect wedding gift list. From deciding on a gift registry, to choosing the perfect gifts, we’ve got you covered!

Deciding on a registry

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The first step in creating your gift list is deciding on a registry. There are several options to choose from, including traditional department stores, online retailers, or even a combination of both. The most important thing is to choose a registry that suits your unique needs and preferences. A traditional department store registry will allow you to add a mix of home and lifestyle items, whereas an online registry will give you the flexibility to add items from multiple retailers.

Our recommended gift registry

Photo © The Wedding Shop

For creating a unique and personalised gift list, our top choice is The Wedding Shop. Our founder, Hamish Shephard, used it for his own wedding, and was very impressed! They’ve won a number of awards, and it’s completely free to sign up. Plus, you get your own Gift Guru (a.k.a. personal wedding gift list advisor), to help make your journey enjoyable and unique to you, not to mention stress-free! They’ve got over 30 years of experience and feature over 450 brands, so your list will be in the best possible hands, and you’ll have a great selection of gifts to choose from.

Choosing the perfect gifts

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Once you’ve decided on a registry, it’s time to start choosing the perfect gifts. Consider what you currently have and what you still need, and include a mix of items at different price points (to cater to guests with different budgets). For homebodies, consider items like cookware, bedding and home decor. For foodies, think items like a KitchenAid mixer, a set of high-quality knives and a cast iron skillet. For all the art lovers out there, add a beautiful painting or sculpture, or a membership to a local museum. For the adventurous couple, consider adding experiences such as a cooking class at a gourmet restaurant, or a hot air balloon ride at sunrise – the possibilities are endless!

Our recommended must-have items

We’ve picked out our favourite must-haves from The Wedding Shop, which are sure to inspire you!

Creating your perfect wedding gift list is an exciting opportunity to start building your new life together as a couple. By following these steps, the whole process will be fun and stress-free! Looking for alternatives to physical gifts? The Wedding Shop offers these too! From honeymoon funds and charity donations, to memorable experience gifts, we love the choice and flexibility. Plus, everything is all in one place, which makes the whole process so oh-so-easy from start to finish.

The Current COVID Wedding Rules in England

UPDATED: 14th June 2021

N.B. The following applies to weddings in England only. We are expecting official confirmation from the government tomorrow which will be updated here.

Finally, we can give you the news that we’ve all been waiting for – big weddings are back! The government has announced today that while other restrictions will remain in place, weddings with more than 30 guests will be able to go ahead in England from 21st June! Your patience and resilience through all of this have been incredible and we are so excited to watch you celebrate, even if there will still be some more restrictions in place than we had hoped for.

We know it can be tricky to work out exactly what these restrictions are and what is just guidance, but hopefully, we can help. Below are the latest rules, as reported by the Deputy Political Editor at The Telegraph. This should give some additional clarity about what is and isn’t allowed from 21st June.

From June 21st:

Allowed:

  • Unlimited attendees at wedding ceremonies and receptions, so long as they can be accommodated in a COVID-secure way
  • Musical entertainment, with a group of up to six performers allowed inside, and up to 30 performers allowed outdoors
  • The wedding couple’s first dance
  • Speeches, with the Government guidance urging that these take place outdoors or in a well-ventilated area where possible. Public address systems, such as microphones are preferable to raised voices.
  • Cutting of the cake
  • Guestbooks and camera stations are allowed, however, contact should be minimised, with hand sanitisation stations encouraged before and after use

Not Allowed:

  • Indoor dancing
  • Stand up drinks receptions at outdoor or indoor wedding venues

Advised Against:

  • Dancing outdoors
  • Communal singing, which includes hymns
  • Reusable service booklets and devotional materials. Single-use alternatives that can be binned should be used instead
  • Cash donations, with alternative online giving encouraged instead

Obligatory:

  • Facemasks must be worn indoors during wedding ceremonies and receptions, except for when eating and drinking
  • Table service for food and drink, with no more than six guests per table
  • Risk assessments are mandatory for all wedding venues, as well as guests celebrating on private land if more than 30 people are attending

Make sure you download the Bridebook app and update your wedding location and date. This will ensure you get breaking news that is relevant to your wedding, whenever it is announced. To get the latest updates follow #whataboutweddings and The UK Wedding Taskforce on Instagram.

The Latest COVID Wedding News

Update: The Times has reported that the government will (finally!) lift the 30-person limit on weddings, even if the easing of other lockdown restrictions is delayed beyond June 21.

We will be keeping you all up to date if there are any changes to the rollout of weddings, so you’ll never miss the latest news. Download the Bridebook app today so that you are first to hear of any changes to policy that may affect your wedding.

Whilst restrictions are set to end on the 21st of June, weddings are still likely to be a little different for the next couple of years. The “new normal” will probably still affect a few things at your wedding. And while there may be no major fixed rules, we want to give you some tips on how to navigate through the early days after restrictions end.

Below are our top tips for planning a post-COVID wedding.

1. Keep up to date with latest government restrictions

Firstly, make sure that you know the particular COVID rules in your given area. Remember that there are often slight differences in policy between England, Scotland, Wales, and Northern Ireland. Keep up to date with everything here.

Also, while the government has said that there won’t be different rules for different regions, this policy may change. Particularly, if pockets of the countries see mini-outbreaks. Again, make sure you know the rules for your wedding location and your hometown. This way you won’t get caught out with any last-minute changes.

2. Make contingency plans for guests coming from abroad

One thing that definitely won’t be back to normal straightaway on 21st June is international travel. With new variants and differing vaccination rates, some restrictions on travel are sure to remain for a while.

As a result, we recommend making some contingency plans for any guests who are planning to come from abroad. Keep up to date with which countries are on which lists (red, amber, green). This will ensure you know which guests may need to quarantine and who may need to order tests for early release from quarantine. 

Travel rules are likely to remain in flux for some time yet, so do think about how you will mitigate this. Will you still go ahead with some live streaming options? A lot of venues now have this capability so do ask ahead of time. Similarly, we have seen some couples use computer tablets at tables for guests who are abroad and can’t make it to the ceremony.

Have a chat with your partner and work out what will work for you and your day.

3. Check your honeymoon destination

Since travel restrictions are likely to continue, you will also need to keep an eye on the rules for your honeymoon destination. Again, keep up to date with the latest for your particular country at the government-specific site.

Know what the quarantine rules are so that you can book the required time off and make sure you have your tests done well in advance.

Remember to do the same if you are having your hen do or stag do abroad, particularly if your bridesmaids or groomsmen aren’t quite as on-the-ball as you.

4. Keep your guests feeling safe

Even when restrictions end, some guests may still be nervous. It has been a really tough 18 months and some people want to take things a bit more cautiously than others. And that’s fine.

Make sure you know which of your guests might need a little more reassurance in advance. You can then provide badges for people who want to signal to others that they would like to keep their distance a bit more. 

You could seat them nearer to open doors or windows to get more ventilation. Simply increasing the number of sanitisation stations around the venue can put some people at ease.

Similarly, if you are a bit nervous about having your wedding straight after restrictions end, let your guests know what you expect from them. This way there won’t be any surprises on the day.

5. Talk to your venue about their safety measures

The staff at wedding venues want you and your guests to feel as safe as possible on your big day.

Many venues now have protocols for making a venue more COVID-secure. This can include greater distancing at tables, one-way systems around the property, and increased ventilation. As we mentioned above, many also have the ability to livestream parts of the event.

Chat to your venue to let them know what things you need on your particular day and they are likely to be very accommodating.

6. Download the Bridebook app

The Bridebook app is where you can get the latest and most up to date news for weddings. If things change, this is where you’ll find out first.

Update your date and let us know where you’ve booked your venue. Then we can provide you with the most relevant information for your specific wedding date and location.

7. Have fun!

Restrictions are due to end on 21st June, so there should be no major rules at your wedding outside of travel restrictions. Instead, it will be up to you to find the right balance for you and your guests. But remember, it has been an incredibly tough 18 months and one that we know people can’t wait to put behind them. People have never been in bigger need of a great party. Your wedding will be a celebration that will live long in the memory. So be safe, but enjoy it! You deserve the best day of your life.

Post-Quarantine Wedding Trends

After weeks of being inside, forced apart from our nearest and dearest, weddings seem like a lifetime away. And yet, the day will come when life will be full of loved ones, laughter and celebration once more. We can expect some significant effects on weddings to come later this year and into 2021.

The 2021 wedding season will not be without its challenges. With 64% of 2020 weddings expected to be pushed-back, 2021 is set to be a busy one.  Couples will have to make quick decisions on dates, to get first dibs on the date they want.  Guests can expect many more clashes, and midweek weddings than ever, making things a little more challenging. On the bright side, we’ll have a way to use up all of those saved holiday days…

Post-coronavirus, we can expect that weddings will be bigger, bolder, and even more full of meaning. Everyone is longing for the days of confetti, cake, and bubbly, and we have the scoop on the trends you can expect to see post-lockdown.

 

Digital Guests: 

One thing that has come from this period of change and online socialising is the normalisation of online meeting services, such as zoom. Travel restrictions may persist for some time, and we expect two-thirds of weddings post-lockdown to have at least some guests attending virtually. For elderly relatives, as well as friends and family living in far-flung destinations, digital access will be a great way for them to still be able to attend these special moments, even if just remotely. 

man smiling with gadgets

 

Courageous Fashion Choices:

After what feels like months of wearing the same pair of leggings and jumpers, everyone will be jumping at the chance to dress up and look their best.  We can expect adventurous guest fashion, with brighter, more fashion-forward dresses and bolder jewellery choices. 

It won’t just be guests making bold statements; we are seeing a 50% increase in the popularity of statement veils (probably thanks to Mrs. Bieber). We can expect to see many more brides making this trend their own, embroidering their veils with meaningful quotes or even initials. Alongside an increase in statement veils, we are also seeing a rise in catwalk-inspired statement sleeves and pearl-embellished dresses, seen at the likes of Dior and Chanel.

Classic Blue was announced as the Pantone colour of the year, so expect a great revival in the something blue, something borrowed tradition, featuring this beautiful shade. Think blue in newly trending hair barrettes, jewelry and even the bases of high heels!

Post-credit-crunch, boho brides were on the rise, and this trend is set to explode once more. Many 2021 brides will be going for the ethereal look, with wearable florals, and bridal crowns taking center stage.

bride with flower crown

 

Creative Wedding Decor:

If you thought wedding creativity had reached its peak, just you wait. With more time than ever to d think about wedding details, we can expect a move away from some more traditional elements to more creative and modern takes on decor.  Some creative couples will be changing up the traditional seating charts, instead painting table lists on flower-filled glass boxes. Floral hoops have also been growing in popularity, with growing in popularity by 80% this year, alongside hanging floral decorations and flower-filled aisles.

Post quarantine, there will be a revival of the Do-it-yourself Bride and Groom. Around three-quarters of weddings will include some DIY elements, as couples cut costs where they can (and have more time on their hands!), with DIY-couples saving a combined £20million. We are looking forward to personalised table settings, wedding favours, and decor, such as photo displays. 

DIY floral arrangement

 

Wedding Food Trends:

With so many couples caring more than ever about sustainability and the environment, it is no wonder that there has been a shift to a focus on menu seasonality, as well as plastic and waste reduction.  With many couples aiming to create as little environmental impact as possible, the increase in zero-plastic and reduced-waste weddings could save more than 15,000 tonnes of wedding waste from ending up in landfills (that’s 100 blue whales!). From invitations made of recycled paper,  vegan menus and leftover composting, we can safely assume that the sustainable wedding trend is here to stay and will explode in 2021.  We imagine many couples will be donating leftover flowers to local hospitals and hospices, which hopefully will be a trend that will stick.

As for the sweet stuff,  we predict a shift away from the traditional and pricy wedding cakes that often remain uneaten, to more exciting offerings. Unique grab and go dessert displays, such as doughnut walls will come into their own (there are almost 100,000 posts under the hashtag #donutwall on Instagram!).

Weddings are all about individuality and celebrating who the couple truly is. We are expecting food and drink that pay homage to the backgrounds of the couple, whether that is custom messages in fortune cookies or cocktails made with a type of Slovakian cherry liquor.  More and more couples will be selecting super-personal menus, such as family favourite desserts, or cocktails named after people and places that mean something to the couple and their families.

 

Party Central:

After the storm of COVID, when weddings begin again, they are set to go on till the early hours. Where there is partying, there is midnight feasting. Guests can expect to be sustained with anything from sweet treat grazing tables, to late-night pasta pots to keep them dancing the night away.

Missing happy hour has become a national tragedy, and it’s coming back in a big way – think serve-yourself prosecco taps, experimental cocktails, and boozy popsicles like frozen rose, mimosas, and mojitos making their way onto a dancefloor near you. 

It’s only natural that with happy hour, comes confidence in dance ability. Learning a Tiktok dance became a quarantine right of passage, and newly married couples will be eager to show off their new fancy footwork. Be prepared for some seriously questionable, but hilarious first dances. 

Post-Quarantine Wedding Trends

 

Registry Remix:

Many couples feel that this period has put things into perspective, as well as made many questioning what gifts they can live without. Cutlery and crystal bowls are a nice memento, but lots of couples are forgoing the regular registry list, asking for experiences, not things. More will be asking for starter funds for a new home, a pet, or for their honeymoons. Charity registries will also become the norm, with more and more couples wanting to donate to a cause they feel passionate about.

 

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Introduction: Your Wedding Guest List

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Your wedding day is one of the most important days of your life, and your guests are an integral part of what makes the day so special. Selecting your guests is such a fun process – when else do you get a day filled with all your favourite people!? Don’t get overwhelmed by all the people you want or all the people you feel you have to invite… we’re going to help you nail your guest list, which you can then keep track of with our handy Guest List tool. You’re welcome!

Venue

Where do you want to get married? If your event is a lavish affair in a massive venue, then go crazy on numbers. If you only want your nearest and dearest at a smaller venue, then that will give you an indication of how many people you can invite. Your budget will also play a big role in the decision making process, but tricks like opting to hold a buffet or a cocktail party instead of a sit down meal will give your budget room for manoeuvre (yay!).

Divide the guest list

Set aside a cosy evening to sit down with your loved one and write down everyone you might want to invite: family, friends and optional guests. The optional guests will probably include work colleagues, distant relatives, or the potential plus ones of family or friends. The best way to decide on the optional guests is to ask yourself: would I be offended if I wasn’t invited to their wedding? If the answer is yes, then it’s best you include them on the guest list!  Bonus: if you suddenly need to cut down on the guest list, you will know which group to start with! And if some of your friends and family can’t come, you can start inviting some of those optional extras.

Families

Consider how many guests you are allocating to each of the families. When previously the bride’s family paid for everything, they got the upper hand in deciding whom to invite. Now, some couples pay for their own weddings, or both families contribute, so think about how to have this conversation with your parents. Similarly, families may be expecting to bring their children along to your wedding and if this isn’t something you want, think about letting them know in advance, so that they can organise babysitters.

Timings

Play around with your timings. You could invite immediate family and friends to the ceremony and reception and then invite a load more for the food and dancing – or the other way round. Or you could invite more people after the wedding breakfast for cocktails and grooving. Play with the timings and numbers to suit you and your budget! Remember, that on average, 20% of your invited guests may decline, allowing you more room for manoeuvre. However, don’t hold out for this exact number to decline! In fact, it is always worth asking your caterer the cost of last minute changes, just in case someone turns up or drops out!

Don’t forget the bride and groom

Final point: Once you’ve made the perfect guest list, don’t forget to put your own names on the list, you would be surprised how many couples don’t do that and are amazed to find the caterer short of two plates!

 

Happy planning!

How To Finalise Your Wedding Guest List With Your Venue

Once you’ve finalised your Guest List – and we mean finalised, not nearly finalised – it’s time to send it to your venue and your caterers so they can prepare accordingly. We’d tend to advise against sending your Guest List before it’s fully finalised as you’ll end up sending revised version after revised version, and that risks leaving you (as well as your suppliers!) confused.

What Does A Finalised Guest List Look Like?

When your Guest List is finalised, you’ll have:

  • Final number of guests attending your ceremony
  • Final number of guests attending your reception (and/or in the evening only)
  • Final number of guests having a meal
  • All of your guests’ dietary requirements
  • Any access needs your guests might have
  • Final number of children attending (including those who will require a children’s meal)
  • Final number of babies attending (so the venue knows how many highchairs will be required)

If your catering will be handled by an external caterer, your venue won’t need information relating to meal options (but your caterer still will).

Psst! There’s an easy way to keep track of all this information – it’s in your Bridebook’s handy Guest List Tool. Check it out here!

How Can You Make Sure You Have All This Information?

Well, there’s one easy way to keep track of all this information – it’s your Bridebook’s handy Guest List Tool! You can use it to keep track of your RSVPs, +1s and any extra information like dietary requirements and access needs too.

If you haven’t sent out your invitations yet, make sure to include a clear RSVP deadline. As a rule, set your RSVP deadline at least six weeks before your big day. We also recommend that couples always check with their venue, caterer and other suppliers if they will need confirmation of numbers earlier than this and adjust accordingly.

If you’ve already sent out your invitations and your RSVP deadline is fast approaching (or has even already gone by), don’t be shy! Reach out to any guests who haven’t yet RSVP’d to confirm whether or not they’ll be attending.

With these tricks up your sleeve, you’ll have your Guest List finalised in no time – and then it’s back to the fun stuff! Did someone say cake tasting…?

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11 Wedding Guest List Arguments All Couples Have (And How To Resolve Them)

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Cutting down your wedding guest list can feel like you’re Hercules battling the Hydra – cut one person, and two more grow back in their place! But it has to be done, whether it’s because you need to save a few bucks or because they just! won’t! fit! in your venue. Remember, a bigger guest list means a bigger budget… or choosing between a champagne reception and serving your uncle’s homebrew!

The moment when you and your partner combine lists and discover the number is bigger than you ever imagined is always a dark day. To avoid disappointment for either of you – and the ruthless cull that has to follow – try using our Guest List Tool. It’ll do all the adding up, sorting and tracking, meaning you both stay on top of numbers.

Sadly, as brilliant as our Guest List Tool is, it can’t fight your battles for you. (Not yet, anyway. We wish!) So if you think your other half is being unreasonable (or maybe you just need to get something off your chest!), we’ve got some tips to help you navigate the tricky terrain of the wedding guest list.

“Your parents have a longer list… But they’re not paying as much as mine!”

Straight in at the deep end! We can almost guarantee that both sets of parents will want to invite a long list of their friends, regardless of whether or not you like them…or whether they can pay towards the extra cost. As a rule of thumb, we’d say that if they’re not immediate family or your other half hasn’t seen them in the past ten years, you have a right to question them.

“I don’t want children!” (*pause* “At the wedding, not with you!”)

Now, this is a decision that lots of couples struggle to make personally, never mind between the two of them. But if a child-free wedding is what you want, you should be reassured that you’re not a bad person for requesting this. You’re also not the only one – lots of couples do. Not only is it an easy way to cut costs and numbers (and, dare we say, stress levels), but it might even be more welcome among your guests than you’d expect! After all, it gives parents a proper night off to enjoy themselves.

“You don’t even like your work friends!”

Work friends are tricky. The key question to start with is whether they’re friends your partner happened to make through work…or if they really are work friends. Either way, it’s worth considering that not only can a blanket ban rub your fiancé up the wrong way, it might well make for an awkward office atmosphere for them post-honeymoon. Why not compromise and invite a handful of them to the drinks and dancing, if not the ceremony? That way, everyone’s happy… But you’re still not paying full whack!

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“Why are you inviting your ex?”

We’d never want to make assumptions but this can be a ticking time bomb. Now, if you’re one of those lucky few who’s genuinely on good terms with their ex (and importantly, whose partner is on good terms with them too!), more power to you. Invite away! But there are no prizes for inviting an ex out of awkwardness or some kind of weird obligation – so if you don’t have a good reason to (e.g. you’re actually still close friends), we’d give it a miss. Remember, you’ll also be risking a fair few awkward conversations: “So, how do you know the happy couple?” “Oh, erm…” Our advice? Only invite exes in exceptional circumstances.

“It doesn’t feel like our wedding anymore!”

Managing a wedding can feel like a balancing act. Yes, you want the details to be perfect and to keep everyone happy… But you still need to think about the big picture (and vice versa!). This is never more apparent than when you’re putting together your guest list. Sure, maybe those extra six guests from Mum and Dad’s timeshare won’t actually feel like such a big deal on your big day… But if it’s overwhelming you right now, you need to let your parents know.

“Shall we just bloody elope?”

Every couple will have this moment… And you know what, some of you might decide you should! But take a minute and pour another glass of wine before making any hasty decisions. We promise that nine-and-a-half times out of ten, it’ll be worth it in the end!

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“We’ll have to not invite some of your family.”

Chances are, one of you will have a significantly larger family than the other. To deal with this, try to assign rough portions of your guest list to each one of you early on so that you both know what you’re working with. You might do this equally and split the list into quarters: one for each of your families and one for each of your extras. Or you might decide to reflect on the size of your respective families: if your partner has a much bigger family than you (but is still close to them!), you could decide to give them a third for their relatives and yourself a quarter. Either way, your boundaries will be a bit more obvious – and so will overstepping them!

“We can’t not invite them – they’ve just got engaged.”

This is where you need to be firm with your decision. Lay down the law and stick to it – avoid any grey areas or sneaky exceptions. For example, many couples have a “No Ring, No Bling” policy, meaning a guest can only bring a plus one if they’re married or engaged. That said, given that many people choose not to marry nowadays, another way to keep your guest list a little leaner is by making decisions based on how long a couple have been together.

“Well, they invited us to their wedding…”

Look. Weddings aren’t tit for tat, and you should never feel obligated to invite someone to yours, just because they invited you to theirs. Planning a wedding is too hard (and too expensive!) for that. This is the bottom line: invite the people you want to spend the best day of your life with… And ideally, no one else!

“We’re treating our friends like they’re numbers!”

Maybe you are, but the reality is that this is what all couples have to do eventually. At one stage or another, you’ll start to feel like all your wedding guests have a pound sign hanging above their heads. Planning a wedding is a balancing act. Inevitably, you start to think about how one less guest means getting back their equivalent in booze, flowers or cake. But before you make any hasty decisions, think about how much that person means to you. This feeling won’t last forever – you’ll forget it as soon as they’re there at your big day. We promise, they’re worth every penny… But if you really don’t feel like they are, then it might be time to make a cut!

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“It’s still! Too! Big!”

If you feel like you’ve done everything you can and your guest list is still just too big, it’s time to get pragmatic. Sit down with your partner and split your guest list into the A List and the B List. Sound cruel? Not at all! Many couples even plan ahead and print two sets of RSVP cards with different dates: an earlier date for the A List and a later date for the B List (to be sent out after the A List have said they can’t make it). A word of warning though: try not to let the B List know they’re the B List. Cher might get away with it in ‘Clueless’… But there’s no guarantee that you will too!

Got another guest list dilemma you want solved? Check out our Instagram, TikTok and YouTube channels. We might have already answered your question – and if not, drop us a line in the comments. But we reckon once you’ve sorted out these ones, you’ll be pretty much good to go. Send those invitations out – and once your RSVPs come flooding in, keep track of them with our state-of-the-art Guest List Tool. Then it’s onto budget blow-outs…

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How To Manage Your Parents’ Expectations Whilst Planning The Wedding You Actually Want

Whether you have 2 parental figures at the wedding or 8, all of them will likely have certain expectations and some firm opinions on your big day, and will want to play a part in it. This can be one of the most challenging aspects of planning your wedding, as juggling the desires of so many people you hold so dearly can be really tough. It is natural to be strongly affected by it, especially if you are relying on their support (both emotionally and financially) to make the wedding happen.  When your W-Day is looking set to be more like D-Day, it takes some of the fun away from the process – so here are our 5 Tips for Managing Your Parents’ Expectations.

 

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Plan with your partner first before anyone else

First and foremost, remember that it’s your day, so it’s imperative that you and your partner talk about what the most important (and realistic) aspects of your wedding are from the outset, and then  keep tracking of them with our wedding planning tools. All the way through, keep why you’re doing it in mind, and why it’s all worth it. 


Involve your parents in the planning

Traditionally, the bride’s parents paid for and hosted the wedding, whilst the groom’s did a lot of prep and liaison, but times are changing and many couples would rather do it themselves. However, parents would still love to be involved somehow,  and it can be done suitably: by visibly taking their considerations on board (though not necessarily putting them into action), and taking the time to understand one another and explain the decision you come to. Try and discuss this with your partner first to predict what your parents may be keen on. 

Take accountability for your parents

When relationships get really strained, it usually helps to manage your own parent’s expectations, and let your partner deal with theirs. This allows conversations to be held with much more honesty and authenticity, rather than the veiled politeness you may feel you owe your partner’s parents. Also, remember that every relationship is different: your partner’s relationship with their parents is likely to be different to your relationships with yours, so one solution may not fit all. Be supportive of your partner throughout, and they’ll be supportive of you too. 

Prepare for telling them how you feel

Relatedly, steel yourself for the potential for some tough love if needed. You may be an adult, but in your parent’s eyes you’ll always be seen as their baby – especially in the run-up to a wedding! However, this doesn’t mean they can take over the planning, and you should prepare yourself to have to tell them that. It’s not necessarily a comfortable conversation to have, but at this point, your parents will hopefully remember you’re a fabulous full-grown human in your own right (thanks to them, mostly) and can make decisions for yourself.

Remember they have your best interest at heart

Although the key thing is that you both get your dream day, it’s good to remember that that’s all your parents are aiming for too, albeit in a considerably different way sometimes!  A nice way of publicly showing you realise how much they care is in the speeches – if you’ve had a rough time dealing with parents’ expectations in the lead up, then acknowledging how grateful you are for everything they’ve done in the reception speech can be a lovely way to draw a line under it. Alternatively, make a joke out of it if you think it will go down well! 

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Ultimately they want you to have the most amazing day of your life, but if they can have a great day too….well, that would also be lovely. Weddings are crazy, heady, emotional times for everyone, but at the root of it all, it’s all about celebrating you two and your life together – sometimes those involved just need a nudge in remembering that. Now for the fun bits – the cake tasting and the champagne drinking…

 

Happy Planning!

 

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What Your Bridesmaids Should and Shouldn’t Pay For

On your wedding day, you’ll be surrounded by your friends and family. Among them, your bridesmaids will be some of the closest allies and will have a key role to play not just in the wedding itself, but as part of the build-up as well.

But, when it comes to what your bridesmaids should and shouldn’t pay for, how do you know who picks up the bill? Is it you, your family, or your bridesmaids themselves?

Your bridesmaids will do a lot to support you already, and as tough as it is to talk about costs, it’s a must. Establish from the beginning what they’re responsible for and what you’ll be covering for them. Then hopefully that’ll mean there are no awkward arguments during the lead-up to your wedding.

But, how do you know who pays for what? What are the traditions and the unwritten rules about what you should pay for and what your bridesmaids should pay for themselves? In this post, we’re going to explore exactly that, including who should pay for the bridesmaids’ dresses, who pays for the hen do, and what else you should be aware of as your big day approaches.

Who pays for the bridesmaids’ dresses?

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One of the most difficult subjects to talk about with your bridesmaids is who pays for their dresses. Traditionally, the bride and her family are the ones who pay for the bridesmaids’ dresses. However, it’s becoming increasingly more common for bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses.

It’s also traditional for each of the bridesmaids to wear the same outfit, which will complement the bride’s beautiful dress. But, it’s also becoming more popular for each of the bridesmaids to wear a different dress, but one that usually sticks closely to the theme or colour scheme of the wedding.

Of course, this does depend on the costs involved. If the dress you’re asking your bridesmaids to wear comes with a high price tag, it’d be unfair of you to expect them to pay, so you’d probably want to foot the bill on that occasion.

Whatever you choose to do, or whatever your budget allows you to do, just make sure you’re open and honest with your bridesmaids at all times. If you’re asking them to pay, give them as much notice as possible, so they’ll have a long time to save. Asking bridesmaids at modern weddings to pay for their own dresses is relatively common, but it’s important to give them plenty of time to afford it. Saving for a £200 dress is a much easier task if your wedding is two years away compared to just a couple of months.

For more information, read our guide to wedding etiquette: who (traditionally) pays for what?

Who pays for the bridesmaids’ shoes?

While many brides and their families offer to pay for the bridesmaids’ dresses, it’s not as common to offer to pay for their shoes. Shoes may be a part of their outfit, but there’s usually far more flexibility when it comes to footwear than the dress. So, this will often be something the bridesmaids pay for, whether it’s flats, heels or wedges.

Who pays for the bridesmaids’ accessories?

Similar to the shoes, it’s usually the responsibility of the bridesmaids themselves to pay for any accessories they might want to wear, such as any jewellery or bags.

How much do bridesmaids’ dresses cost?

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The cost of bridesmaids’ dresses can vary hugely depending on whether you choose to buy dresses from a wedding boutique or a high street retailer. Neither is the right answer – both offer wonderful dresses – it just depends on your style, taste and budget.

Specialist bridal shops that also sell bridesmaid’s dresses, such as The Bride’s Wardrobe and Cherished Wedding Boutique, have ranges that suit a variety of budgets, with prices starting from around £200.

High street retailers such as M&S offer a great selection of affordable bridesmaids’ dresses, with prices ranging between £75 and £250. There’s also the option to rent, although this isn’t quite as popular with dresses as it is with wedding suits.

What if your bridesmaids can’t afford the dress you want them to wear?

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If you’ve asked your bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses (which you’re well within your right to do) then you may face an additional challenge: what if your bridesmaids can’t afford it?

If you’re asking your bridesmaids to pay for their own dress, then you possibly already knew about their financial situation. Similarly, you hopefully gave them enough of a heads-up so that they could save money for their dress. Even then, you may face the awkward situation where they’re not able to pay for the dress.

If this happens to you, where possible we’d recommend that this is something you try to find a little more budget for, and offer to pay for your bridesmaid’s dress. It wouldn’t be fair on that particular bridesmaid to expect them to pay, especially if it means them getting into debt. The only other option would be to uninvite them from being a part of the bridal party, which will almost certainly cause tension and could damage your relationship with them forever.

It’s a tough situation, and one that’s hard to offer advice on as every situation is different. Just make sure that you let your bridesmaids know they can speak to you about any concerns they have, because you definitely don’t want anyone to feel stressed or anxious because they’re struggling to find the funds to pay for their dress.

Do your bridesmaids pay for your hen party?

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Often, your bridesmaids will cover the costs of arranging your hen party, such as travel, accommodation and activities. But, expect to pay for a few drinks for your hens along the way.

The only exception to this is if you’ve had a heavy hand in the planning process. It would be unfair to expect your hens to pay for a long weekend to Prague – especially if you were the one to suggest it. Travel can be pricey, and not all of your bridesmaids will be in a position to pay for additional costs, especially if they’re not exactly cheap to begin with.

Cheat sheet to what your bridesmaids should and shouldn’t pay for

If you’re in a rush, check out the below quick reference cheat sheet for everything you need to know about what your bridesmaids should and shouldn’t pay for:

What Your Bridesmaids Should and Shouldn’t Pay For
What you bridesmaids should and shouldn’t pay for: quick reference cheat sheet

Complete list of what your bridesmaids should and shouldn’t pay for

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Check out our below guide to discover what you might ask your bridesmaids to pay for. Just remember, every wedding is unique – just like your bridesmaids – so these aren’t strict rules that you should stick to.

Your bridesmaids should pay for: 

Your bridesmaids should pay for their own shoes and accessories. However, a great gift to thank your bridesmaids for being a part of your big day would be a token piece of jewellery that they can wear on the day.

Your bridesmaids should pay for: 

Hen party costs are also up to the bridal party – they can split this between them and still give you the best pre-wedding party of your life. The only caveat to this is if you have ambitious plans, such as a trip to Europe or something else on the pricier side.

Your bridesmaids should pay for: 

Travel and accommodation associated with your big day are the duty of your bridesmaids to organise and pay for. However, you could help them out by booking a block of rooms at a discount price, or if your venue is far away, you could arrange for a large group of you to travel together to cut down the cost.

Your bridesmaids should pay for:

If your bridesmaid chooses to give you a wedding gift (and they may not as they’ve already spent a lot of money and effort on your wedding) the cost is up to them. It may only be something small, but it will be a lovely keepsake to mark them accompanying you on your big day.

Your bridesmaids should pay for: 

Aside from any welcome drinks and wine/fizz with meals, unless you’re offering an open bar your bridesmaids will expect to pay for their own drinks, particularly as the evening reception begins.

Your bridesmaids shouldn’t pay for:

The bride is expected to pay for any floral accessories and the bouquets being held by the bridesmaids. Don’t forget about any extras, like corsages.

Your bridesmaids shouldn’t pay for:

If you choose to have your bridal party stay with you in your hotel suite on the eve of your wedding, that’s your responsibility and you should cover the cost of this.

Your bridesmaids shouldn’t pay for:

Transportation on your wedding day is also up to the bride and her family to pay for. Your bridesmaids will have enough to think about on the day, so do them a favour and arrange how they’ll get from the altar to the reception. You could save these costs by having the ceremony and reception at the same location.

Your bridesmaids shouldn’t pay for:

This one almost goes without saying, but your bridesmaids shouldn’t have to pay for any food on the big day. This includes any pre-ceremony food as you get ready, such as salmon and scrambled eggs and a cheeky glass of Buck’s fizz.

What about the grey areas?

As we’ve already highlighted, it’s entirely up to you and your budget to decide whether or not you offer to pay for your bridesmaids’ dresses. If you’re expecting your bridesmaids to wear a dress that’s on the pricier side, then this is something you should probably offer to pay for. One of the unofficial rules is that if you’re giving your bridesmaids certain ‘rules’ they have to stick to, then that usually means it’s something you should pick up the bill for.

Hair and makeup is another tricky one. If you’re not that fussed and want to save some pennies, ask them to do their own hair and makeup (they will look stunning anyway). However, if you specifically want a glamorous or particular look for your bridesmaids, you will have to pay for a professional. Your chosen hair and makeup artist can probably offer you a deal if they’re looking after several people in your wedding party. Read our post on the cost of wedding beauty for more information.

Alternatively, if your bridesmaids are being a little diva-ish and want to hire a professional without your requesting it, they’re probably better off picking up the cost – or you could split the bill in goodwill to keep them sweet. Remember, your wedding photos will last a lifetime, so make sure you’re happy with the final looks.

How to talk about money with your bridesmaids

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The most important thing you can do is keep money talk open and honest. Talking about money can be difficult at the best of times, but doubly so when you’re asking someone to spend some of their own hard-earned cash. As soon as you know your plans, communicate them to your bridal party so they know exactly what’s expected of them and how much they’re going to have to save.

Evening Standard columnist and wedding planning expert Hamish Shephard has the following advice: “Asking someone else to spend money on your wedding can be a difficult subject to bring up. The best thing you can do is to just be honest. In the UK, the average cost of a wedding is £19,184, which can sharply rise if you have to buy dresses for three or four bridesmaids. 

If necessary, be prepared to compromise. You might be spending a lot of money on your wedding, but that doesn’t mean your bridesmaids don’t have financial concerns or commitments of their own. Before you ask them to pay for their own dresses, try to be sympathetic to their financial situation. The more open and transparent you are, and the more time you give your bridesmaids to save, the easier the conversation will be.“

For more expert insights from Hamish Shephard, check out his recent feature on the Financial Times’ Money Clinic podcast, which covers the high cost of being a wedding guest, and how both guests and couples can approach the subject of money And for tips and tricks on saving some cash, read our guide to saving money on bridesmaid dresses.

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6 Tips For Starting Your Guest List

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Oh, the dreaded wedding guest list… Between long lost cousins three times removed and that actually kind of annoying friend you haven’t spoken to in months, even thinking about who to invite can be daunting.

Luckily for you, Bridebook has one of the simplest and most advanced Guest List Tools in the world – and it’s free! As soon as you’ve read these top tips, it’s time to get stuck in. Stressful guest list planning will be a thing of the past.

1. Keep an Eye on Your Budget

You might want everyone and their uncle to be invited to the celebration of the century (and we’re sure they’d want to come!), but you’ve got to think about your wedding budget. How many people can you actually afford? Remember, more guests means finding more space, more food, more favours… and more money. Stick to your budget. It’s as simple as this: if you know you can only afford to invite 100 people… Only invite 100 people!

2. Consider Your Wedding Location

When you choose where to get married, give some thought to your guest list. If your venue is located somewhere closer to home, then it’s more likely more people will be able to attend. If you’re thinking about getting married on the other side of the country (or in a different country altogether!), you’ll need to rethink who it’s realistic to expect at your big day. Will guests be able to afford to travel that far? Can they take the time off work? Will elderly family members still be able to make it? If you haven’t chosen your venue yet, this might be a factor in your decision. If you’re already set on a particular place, have a think about who will actually be able to make it before you invite the masses and potentially get let down.

3. Think About Capacity

After your budget, this is the next big one. At the end of the day, how many people will actually fit in your venue is a pretty hard and fast cap on the size of your guest list. If you’re still looking for your venue, you can use the filters on our Venue Search Tool to find venues that can house the capacity you want. When you visit potential venues and look round the space, double check what they say the capacity is – then reduce it. Remember, you won’t just have guests at your wedding. If the venue says you can fit up to 200 people in one space, consider what else you’ll require there. You might want space for a band, dining tables, etc. Take that into account when inviting guests. It’s all about finding a balance between a jam-packed crowd that can barely move and a half-empty venue that feels too big for a small number of guests.

4. Kids or No Kids?

It’s pretty likely that at least one of your friends or relatives will have children, so think carefully about whether you want to invite them or not. It’s absolutely fine if you don’t, but you do need to remember to politely mention it to the parents well in advance. It’s nothing to be nervous about – and they might even welcome the chance to have a proper night out! On the other hand, if you decide to have a child-friendly wedding, it does mean some extra work. Make sure to work out where children will sit (eg. do you want a kids’ table?) and whether there’ll be a separate kids’ menu. It’s always worth thinking about how you can keep them occupied throughout the day too. Keep them entertained and all will be well!

5. Make a Decision on Plus Ones

Oh, plus ones… The cause of endless headaches. After all, it’s obvious that if a close relative is part of the wedding party, their significant other will be welcome at the wedding. But what about that friend with a new partner you haven’t even met yet? When it comes to plus ones, our best advice is to decide your position and stick to it. For example, if a couple has been dating for over a year, the plus one is invited. No ifs, no buts, no exceptions – otherwise, you risk ending up in sticky situations when people realise they’ve been treated differently.

6. Assume Everyone Will Attend

We know, we know – the temptation to over-invite is real. But this isn’t a house party! There’s nothing worse than having too many people on your guest list and having to uninvite someone. By assuming everyone invited will attend, you leave it open for them to decide. You might not expect them to be able to attend (or they might never RSVP!) but they may actually be able to make it. If you’re still worried about numbers, why not create a backup guest list and order a separate set of invitations with a later RSVP date to send out if your numbers unexpectedly drop?

There you have it – our top tips for getting started with your guest list. Remember to head over to our Instagram, TikTok and YouTube channels for more tips, tricks and wedding inspiration. But for now, it’s time to sit down with your partner, figure out who to invite and start adding them to your Bridebook…

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Everything You Need to Know about Page Boys

The role of a page boy at a wedding is an honorary position typically given to a young boy who plays a special part in the wedding ceremony. Because the role of a page boy is relatively small, they’re not necessarily imperative, but if you have a boy of appropriate age in your family, asking them to be a page boy is a thoughtful and loving gesture. Plus, it allows you to get a few ‘ahhs’ from your guests before the tears start to flow as you exchange your vows.

In this post, we’ll take a look at what a page boy is, what they wear, and their responsibilities as part of your big day, as well as some helpful tips for ensuring everything goes down without a hitch.

What are page boys?

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A page boy is a young boy, often a family member or close relative of the couple, who is selected to take on a special role in the wedding ceremony. The page boy’s role may vary depending on cultural traditions and individual preferences, but it generally involves assisting the wedding party or symbolically participating in the event.

But don’t worry, a page boy is more of a symbolic role, so you don’t need to worry too much about something going wrong if your page boy misbehaves or you don’t have a boy of the right age in your family.

Why is a page boy called a page boy?

‘Page’ is a medieval word that refers to a male attendant or servant to noble figures or knights. A page would work in a castle or home from between the ages of 7 to 14 in exchange for food, lodgings, clothes and a basic education.

Today, the term has evolved to mean a young boy who has a small role at a wedding, and will help in a small, token way, such as by helping to hold the train of the bride’s wedding dress, throw flowers or petals, or simply look adorable in a little suit as they walk down the aisle.

How old can a page boy be for a wedding?

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Typically, page boys are aged between 3 and 10. This is because boys younger than 3 can be much harder to give instructions to, and boys older than 10 may be given responsibilities much closer to that of an usher (if in fact, they want to play a role in your wedding at all).

Is there a difference between a page boy and a ring bearer?

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Yes, there are differences between a page boy and a ring bearer. At modern weddings, because there isn’t as much need for someone to help the bride with a long train on her dress, the role of a page boy is far more honorary than it used to be. Meanwhile, a ring bearer has an important role to play, as they carry the ring pillow down the aisle so the happy couple can exchange rings during the ceremony.

Do you need a page boy at your wedding?

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Page boys are traditionally seen at weddings, especially if you’ve invited a lot of guests and would like to include younger family members in the ceremony. However, if your wedding is small, there are no boys under the age of 10 in your family, or you simply don’t want one, there’s nothing to say you need a page boy. As we highlighted above, it’s more of an honorary position these days and is seen more as a loving gesture than giving someone in your family a job that could make or break the big day.

In our guide to alternative wedding ideas, we even cover how it’s common for couples these days to have a page girl instead of a page boy. It’s your wedding, so do whatever you want!

Can you have 3 page boys at your wedding?

Unlike the ring bearer, of which there is usually only one, you’re welcome to have as many page boys at your wedding as you like. If you have a particularly large family, you might want to have a maximum of three. After all, a group of young lads getting together can sometimes lead to trouble. But, nothing’s stopping you from having a dozen or more if you want to make sure everyone has a role in your wedding (just be prepared for a little mischief).

What does the page boy do on the morning of the wedding?

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On the morning of the wedding, the page boy can do whatever they feel comfortable doing as everyone prepares for the day ahead. If close to the groom, the page boy might enjoy getting ready with the groom and his family, as well as the best man and ushers. This might depend on whether or not the page boy’s parents will be close by and how well they know others who will be there.

Speak to the page boy’s parents and talk to them about what they think their son would prefer to do. If they’re very young, you don’t want to scare them or make them feel anxious, and they may want to be close to their parents. If this is the case, then fine. Remember, when it comes to modern weddings the page boy isn’t likely to have a major role in the ceremony itself.

What is a page boy’s role? 

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Traditionally page boys are in charge of carrying the bride’s train down the aisle, but nowadays, with fewer brides choosing to have long, flowing trains, their responsibilities have evolved. That being said, if you do have a dress with a long train, asking the page boy to uphold this traditional part of the job should be something they can do without any issues.

Today, the page boy might have a dual role where they also carry the rings down the aisle. However, this depends on the age of your page boy and if you trust them to safely hold on to the rings. What a responsibility for the little man! If you’re worried about your precious rings disappearing, you may like to replace them with replicas and have your page boy carry those down the aisle instead. You can squirrel your actual rings away with one of your bridesmaids or ushers so it’s one less thing for you to worry about.

Other things you might ask your page boy to do could be:

  • Hold a symbolic object – The page boy may be tasked with holding a symbolic object, such as a ring cushion, a bouquet or a special item that represents the couple’s love or cultural traditions. The page boy presents this object during the ceremony to the appropriate person.
  • Escort the flower girl – In some cases, the page boy may accompany and walk down the aisle with the flower girl or another young member of the wedding party. This adds a sweet and charming touch to the procession.
  • Scatter petals – If you don’t have any little girls in the family or you know a page boy would enjoy it, why not have them scatter petals down the aisle as an adorable and romantic gesture?
  • Carry a sign – You might ask your page boy to carry a sign down the aisle that says something like, ‘Here comes the bride’ or ‘Please stand’, which gives them an important but very cute thing to do.

Do page boys throw flowers or petals?

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Scattering petals or flowers isn’t exclusive to flower girls. Both page boys and flower girls can be invited to scatter petals while walking down the aisle, which acts as a symbolic gesture of happiness for the bride to follow. Whoever you choose to scatter petals (if this is something you choose at all), it’ll definitely make for some wonderful photo opportunities.

What does a page boy wear?

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Page boys are a fantastic combination of smart and cute, so you’re welcome to dress them in any style that’s in keeping with your wedding. This could be a tuxedo or a suit with a waistcoat and tie. If you have some Celtic blood in your family, take it to the next level of cuteness by dressing your page boy in a kilt with a tiny sporran.

Do page boys need to match the groom?

It’s common for the page boy to wear an outfit similar to that of the groom, but that’s not something set in stone. So, be as adventurous as you like. But, when it comes time for photos, the groom, best man, ushers and page boys will all look equally as fabulous if there’s some cohesion.

Do page boys wear buttonholes?

Yes, along with the groom, dads, best man and ushers, the page boy will usually wear a buttonhole. Just make sure the page boy understands it might be delicate and become damaged if fiddled with.

Do you buy the page boy a gift?

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Like you might do for other members of the wedding party such as the bridesmaids and mums, you might also want to show your page boys and flower girls how much of a great job they did by giving them a small gift. It doesn’t have to be something big and expensive (and definitely not a bottle of wine) but a small toy, game or teddy bear would likely be hugely appreciated.

5 tips for a successful page boy experience

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Excited to have a close friend or family member take on the role of page boy at your wedding? Just bear in mind these five tips so it all goes exactly as planned:

  1. Make sure your page boy attends any wedding rehearsals to familiarise them with the ceremony proceedings and their specific role. Encourage them to ask questions, listen to instructions and practise their tasks so they can feel confident on the wedding day.
  2. Make sure the parents of your page boy know exactly what the page boy has to wear and where they’re going to get ready on the morning of the big day. It’s often a miniature version of the groomsmen’s attire or a suit that matches the wedding theme. Make sure the page boy’s clothes fit well and are comfortable to wear throughout the day (which will prevent fidgeting).
  3. Make sure everyone knows what time to arrive at the wedding venue, allowing ample time for preparation and to get dressed. Being punctual ensures stress and anxiety are kept to a minimum, which can otherwise rub off on your page boy.
  4. Be thoughtful and understanding towards your page boy, but remind them to be on their best behaviour throughout the day. Make sure they know how important their role is and that they can ask you questions at any point if they’re not sure about something.
  5. While it’s your day and you or your wedding planner will be in charge, keep your page boy included so they don’t feel like yet another grown-up is telling them what to do. Ask them what they’d like to do and let them make some decisions to help them feel included.

Remember, younger boys are more likely to throw a tantrum during the wedding ceremony or, even worse, may completely refuse to take part. To avoid either situation, you may wish to have a slightly older page boy or not have one at all…remember that page boys are by no means an absolute must for a wedding.

If the little man does throw a wobbly on the day, then bribing him with sweets, toys or other special treats is certainly an option to consider (but we didn’t tell you that!).

Finally, to make your page boy feel even more special or to give him a bit of encouragement, consider buying him a small ‘Thank You’ present. Not On The High Street has a whole page dedicated to presents for page boys.

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How To: Choose Your Plus One

It’s always exciting receiving a wedding invitation, especially when you see the words “and Guest” written next to your name. But after the excitement wears off about not being a lone solider at the  wedding, you might be stuck wondering who to bring. You’re suddenly left with a big responsibility.  After all, nobody wants to be the one who brings the guest who takes advantage of the free bar and spends the rest of the night in the toilet. Follow our tips to save you any potential embarrassment!

 

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Will Your Guest Actually Show Up?

Everyone is flakey now and again but not showing up to a wedding is a big deal. Make sure the person you are inviting is responsible and reliable and they’ll actually block off the date of the year. Weddings are expensive and the price per head is no small matter. You don’t want to be in the situation where you’re making excuses for their absence.  

Have You Seen Them in a Social Situation?

You’ve been out for the occasional drink but have you seen them in any social situations? Some people act differently when they are in big groups of people and may end up being a big cause of embarrassment on the day of the wedding. You want to be able to feel relaxed, without having to keep a watchful eye on your guest. Make sure he/she has manners and will heed the dress code.

 

Beware of The Exs’.

You don’t want to be the one who brings any drama to the wedding. Make sure the person you are bringing isn’t someone’s ex or anyone you know might make another wedding party member or guest feel uncomfortable. Consider the to-be-weds feelings—and the feelings of other guests too. 

Introduce Your Plus One to The Happy Couple.

If the couple doesn’t know the person you’re inviting, be polite and introduce your plus one to them at some stage of the day– it’s a nice thing to do since they are paying for them to be there.

 

Happy Planning!

 

Bridal Musings’ Expert Tips for Wowing Your Guests on Your Wedding Day

Wedding planning can be a massive affair, and for most it’s the first (and last) time you’ll do it. Sometimes it can help to have a guiding hand  through the marital maze, which is why at Bridebook.co.uk we have world experts on hand to answer your wedding worries. Think Mary Berry for cakes, and Jimmy Choo for shoes – and Bridal Musings for guest enjoyment. With Bridal Musings having more than 3.3 million followers on Pinterest you’ll want to take note…

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Make it Personal

Of course a couple will want to make their wedding  day personal to them (initials decor is so popular right now!) but if you really want to wow your guests, why not make your day personal to them too?

Whether it’s a wedding booklet with a note and headshot for each of your guests, a personalised photograph in every place setting or a crowd-sourced playlist with shout-outs from the DJ, tailored thoughtful touches are guaranteed make your guests feel just as special as you do.

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Up Your Food Game

Even if you’re a big fan of beef or salmon, chances are you’re not going to be floored when it’s served to you at your wedding reception. 

If you really want to impress your guests, opt for something different with your eats. You can search our wedding venue directory for loads of gorgeous blank canvas spaces on there that’ll let your individualise your eating! Keep it casual with food truck tacos or family-style tapas, or opt for a luxe twist like sushi platters for the cocktail hour or a boozy sorbet between courses.

Any kind of creativity will be appreciated by your guests, big time.

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Entertain Us

The biggest thing couples wish they’d put more thought into before their wedding? The entertainment. Throwing a great party means more than just sussing some evening music – why not add in extra elements throughout your day to keep your guests entertained?

Lawn games for the little ones, a mariachi band for cocktail hour, or a table quiz for guests as they take their seats. Touches like these go the extra mile for making your bash the most memorable one of wedding season.

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Be Considerate

So you’ve been planning your wedding for months, forked out a small fortune on your meal, and had to be ruthless with your guest list. Your guests are lucky to have made the cut, right? Wrong!

Some of your guests may have spent a lot of money, travelled a long way, or had to take time off work to make it to your wedding, so make sure you shower them with your appreciation.

If your guests have several weddings/hen nights/stag dos to go to in a year, they’ll be hugely grateful for affordable accommodation choices, or pre-arranged transport.

From organising late night foods or pre-ceremony snacks to keep them from getting peckish, to providing blankets (for outdoor weddings), flipflops (for the dance floor) or hairspray and breath-mints (for freshening up!) any little touches you make will be more impressive to your guests than even the fanciest gown, venue or centrepieces.

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All The Lights

Want to wow your wedding guests, but don’t have lots of cash to spend on styling? Scrap your flower budget, and sink your cash into lights and candles instead.

Okay, so we absolutely adore blooms, but it takes a lot of them to make a big impact. Deck your venue out in as many fairy lights, string bulbs, spotlights and candles as you can possibly muster, and your guests are guaranteed to gush when they walk into the room.

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Banish the Nerves

Okay so this one is easier said than done! But it’s important to remember that your wedding is not a show, it’s a party. (The best party, like, ever!)

And if you want your guests to have a great time, the best thing you can do is just relax, and have a great time yourself.

The most fun weddings are the ones where the love between the bride and groom is truly palpable, and the couple are having the time of their life!

Laugh your way through the vows, beam during dinner, and be the first ones to hit the dancefloor in the evening. Lead the way for a fun night, and your guests are sure to follow suit!

 

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Tips: Group Shots Cheat Sheet

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By Jamie Bott Wedding Photography

Photographs are an essential part of your wedding day. Let’s make sure they are epic but finished in the shortest amount of time, so you can get back to the bubbly.

Here’s our well rehearsed list of traditional group shots – arranged so the elderly aren’t waiting too long, you have your alone time and everyone gets their time to party. You don’t have to take all of these or any of these, but a few of the traditional shots are always much appreciated by the families. Tip: send the order to all people involved so they know when they are expected – and don’t forget to share with your photographer!

Newlyweds with…

  • Each set of grandparents
  • All grandparents
  • Each set of immediate family
  • Both sets of immediate family
  • Each set of parents in turn
  • Both sets of parents
  • Siblings
  • Flower girl and ring bearer

Bride with parents

Groom with parents

[Families Leave to Enjoy Cocktail Hour]

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By John Lennie

Newlyweds with…

  • Maid of honour and best man
  • Ushers
  • The Ushers and Bridesmaids

Bride with Ushers

Groom with Ushers

Groom with the Best Man

[Ushers Leave to Enjoy Cocktail Hour]

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Groom with the Bridemaids

Bride with the Bridemaids

Bride with the maid of honour

Newlyweds with the Bridemaids

[Bridemaids leave to Enjoy Cocktail Hour]

Last on the list – capture some amazing, romantic shots of you both just married, before heading in to get the party started!

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By Guy Hearn

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Introduction: Writing Thank You Notes

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By Weddings Vintage

You’ve spent the past year, months, days being showered in bubbly, presents and celebrations! The wedding is over, you’re back from your honeymoon and your tan is starting to fade. Before settling straight into married life, there’s one thing left to do – thank you letters. While they may seem a bit overwhelming, it’s actually a really special process – you get to go through all the people (and wedding presents!) that made your day so amazing. You might have to write a fair few of these so here are our tips to make the final wedmin task a bit easier.

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By Etsy
  • Let’s go back to the beginning. You probably gathered everyone’s emails and addresses to invite them to your wedding – use this list! Simply catalogue each gift next to the name of the giver and your task will be easy peasy.

 

  • Want to be a super-couple? Start writing the Thank You’s as the gifts arrive, this way, you won’t be overwhelmed with the 200 notes you have to write post W-Day.

 

  • The traditional rule is to have your Thank You’s sent a maximum of two months after your wedding day. Try and stick to this and make your guests feel loved!

 

  • You’re going to need an area of inspiration. Think special writing area, with comfy chair and music. No writers block here!

 

  • Prepare your stationery. You may have ordered your Thank You notes with the rest of your wedding stationery, which is great thinking! Otherwise, get some thick paper notecards and just start writing. Use a nice pen, one that will not blotch the paper and one that is pleasant to write with – it’s going to be with you for the long haul.

 

  • Don’t force yourself to write them all at once, unless you only have twenty or so to do in total. It is a big task and you will get frustrated if you have to do it in one sitting. Really take your time on each letter and enjoy remembering all the wedding day details!

 

 

 

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  • As you start cataloguing the gifts, write a little description next to each one. Otherwise, you might not remember the exact throw or vase that you received when it comes to writing the notes, trust us!

 

  • If you received money, do NOT mention any sums! Instead, say what you are planning to do with the money. Much more polite.

 

  • If the gift was a donation to a charity in your name, then mention how important the charity is to you and the great work that they do.

 

  • If you received a group gift, you should still send individual Thank You notes, but acknowledge that the giver was part of the group, by saying “you guys ROCK!”

 

  • If you don’t like/want to exchange the gifts (awkward!), don’t mention the situation. Just make a positive comment about the gift and thank them for their thought and for attending your wedding. Then sneak to the shop to swap it. Shhhhh!

 

  • Make sure you send a special Thank You to anyone who was a part of your wedding party. This could be the bridesmaids, the ushers and of course, your parents. They probably did a lot to help so take your time writing these ones and really get across how much you love them!

 

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By Weddings Vintage

Happy Thanking!