Author: Elinor Zucchet

The wedding speeches are a traditional and much-anticipated part of any wedding reception. First comes the father of the bride, then the groom, then the best man, then… it all starts to get a little hazy. 

The thing is, there are a number of wedding speeches that need to be made on the big day. Guests can get bored and restless if they last too long. But if they’re not long enough, the speech-makers might feel like they haven’t done the bride or groom justice. So, how to strike the right balance while still captivating the guests?

Don’t worry, we’ve got the answers! Check out our comprehensive guide on how long each wedding speech should last, as well as some handy guidance on what each speech should include.  

What is a wedding speech?

A wedding speech is a speech made by members of the wedding party during the wedding reception. There’s a traditional order of speeches that most people usually follow. However, it’s your big day, so you can absolutely shake it up if you want. 

Traditionally, wedding speeches are made after the main course but before dessert during the reception meal. This timing allows your guests to be well-fed and refreshed, with a brief pause before indulging in dessert. However, if you’d prefer, you can always have the speeches after dessert, or even during the ceremony. Your wedding, your choice!

While it’s possible to give speeches before the meal is served, it’s generally not recommended — your guests might be a bit hungry after sitting through the ceremony!

How long should a general wedding speech be?

Generally, wedding speeches should last between 5 and 7 minutes to ensure there’s enough time for everyone who wants to speak. The entire “wedding speech” segment of the reception should last no more than 40 minutes to keep your guests engaged, but it usually wraps up within 20 to 30 minutes.

You can adjust the length of each speech to give everyone a fair opportunity. For example, if you only have two or three people speaking, you can allow for slightly longer speeches. However, if several members of the wedding party want to speak, it’s best to shorten each speech to keep the schedule on track.

Pro tip: To keep things balanced, divide the total time allotted for speeches by the number of speakers. For instance, if you plan to spend 30 minutes on speeches and have five people speaking, each speech would last around 5.5 minutes, with a 30-second pause in between.

Wedding Speech Lengths: Quick Reference Guide

If you’re in a rush, check out the below quick reference guide to see how long your wedding speech should ideally be. Otherwise, read on for the full breakdown, and be sure to save this infographic for future use. 

How long should a father of the bride speech be?

The father of the bride’s speech is traditionally the longest speech in the order of speeches. It’s usually the first speech made during the wedding reception and is a beloved and much-anticipated part of the bride’s big day. 

The father of the bride’s speech should last between 7 and 9 minutes (and ideally no more than 12, to prevent the order of speeches from becoming too lengthy.) These speeches generally include:

• A thank you to everyone involved in putting together the big day (don’t forget the staff working at the reception)
• An ode to your little girl and what makes her so special
• Your words of wisdom on love and marriage 
• You could round off with some quotes about love or a beautiful wedding reading

How long should a groom’s speech be?

The groom’s speech can be a little longer than the best man’s speech. It should last between 6 and 8 minutes, but no longer than 10 for the guests’ sake. 

It’s usually second in the order of speeches and should be positioned as a thank-you note to all the people who have supported your relationship and wedding planning. As a basic structure, we recommend the following general structure:

• Introduce yourself and your new bride (a guaranteed cheer!)
• Thank the groomsmen, best man, bridesmaids, and maid of honor for their continued love and support throughout your wedding planning
• Thank your parents and new parents-in-law
• A recap of your wedding vows
• Toast to your new spouse and your future together

How long should a best man speech be?

The ideal length for a best man speech is around 5 minutes. However, it can be a little longer or a little shorter, depending on your personal preferences and the overall speech order.

The best man’s speech is usually the third in the order of speeches. It should include things such as:

• A warm introduction to the reception
• Compliments about the bride 
• A playful roast of the groom
• Well-wishes from the best man and groomsmen 
• The Bride and Groom’s love story
• A toast to their future

How long should a maid of honor speech be?

Although untraditional, the maid of honor speech can be a beautiful part of the wedding reception. It should be on the shorter side, like the best man’s speech, and last between 4 and 6 minutes. 

The beauty of a maid of honor speech is that there are no expectations, so it can take any structure you’d like! However, it’s a good idea to include:

• The adventures you’ve shared with the bride
• Anecdotes about wedding planning 
• How the couple’s love story unfolded
• Heartfelt advice on relationships
• A toast to the happy couple

How long should a bridesmaid’s speech be?

As with the maid of honor speech, a bridesmaid’s speech is untraditional, so there are no expectations on how long the speech should be or what it should include. We recommend keeping the speech to around 5 minutes long (less if you’d like multiple bridesmaids to make a speech). 

Having a bridesmaid’s speech after the maid of honor speech may be nice way to keep things flowing. We suggest that you consider the following structure:

• Happy memories you share with the bride
• Your thoughts on love and marriage
• How beautiful the other bridesmaids look
• Your well-wishes for the happy couple

How long should a mother of the groom speech be?

The mother of the groom speech may not be part of traditional wedding speeches, but it’s a beautiful opportunity for a mother to share her love, support, and best wishes for her son and his new spouse. This speech typically lasts between 3 to 5 minutes and, if you’re following traditional speech order, it’s likely to be one of the final speeches at the reception (though this is flexible).

There’s no strict format for a mother of the groom speech, but we recommend including:

• A welcome to the family for the new bride
• Your happiness that the groom has found someone so special
• Fond memories of the groom’s childhood 
• Heartfelt advice
• A final, celebratory toast

The bottom line on speech length 

Speeches are an important and traditional part of the wedding reception. They’re the perfect opportunity for the wedding party and other loved ones to share their thoughts and feelings with the newlyweds. 

As mentioned earlier, the ideal speech length is between 5 and 7 minutes. This ensures everyone has ample time to share their thank-yous and advice, while keeping this portion of the wedding engaging and enjoyable for your guests, maintaining their attention throughout.

We’ve got plenty of great tips, tricks, and wedding speech structures to help you get started if you’re unsure about what to include. And, to see how long your wedding speech should be in practice, check out our wedding speech examples. 

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Happy Planning!

Choosing the right wedding photographer for you is absolutely crucial to ensure you have an amazing wedding album that you’re proud to leave out on the coffee table and show everyone who pops over (guilty!). Your photo album will be a keepsake from your wedding that you’ll want to return to again and again, and may even cement itself as a family heirloom for your kids, grandkids and beyond. It’s almost guaranteed that you’ll use them as your profile pics on social media, too!

Every photographer is different, providing a unique way of stylizing your wedding photos through framing, lighting, composition and more. Each professional photographer you consider will also have different rates, which will vary depending on a wide range of factors, such as experience and skill.

So, when it comes to budgeting for your wedding, how much might you expect to pay for a wedding photographer? In this post we’ll take a look at the average cost of a wedding photographer, what their rates include, and what you need to be aware of before your big day.

What’s the average price of a wedding photographer?

The price of a wedding photographer can vary significantly, but on average, you can expect to pay between $3,000 and $5,000 for photography + videography.  For photography only, expect to pay between $1,000 and $2,000. This might seem like a big expense, but it’s important to remember that you’re not just paying for the photographer’s time on your wedding day. You’re also covering their expertise, skills, and experience, as well as the time spent preparing for your wedding and the detailed post-production work afterward.

Bear in mind that the price usually doesn’t include taxes. Canadian wedding photography services are subject to GST or HST, which varies by province.

What’s included in this cost?

What’s included in the price will depend on the package you choose. A basic package may include coverage on the day and your photographs on a USB, whereas a premium package will include this and much more. When making your decision, be prepared with the right questions to ask a wedding photographer to make sure you know exactly what your chosen package includes.

Depending on your choice, wedding photography packages may include many of the following:

• A pre-wedding photography session
• Coverage on the day
• Post-production including photo editing
• A second supporting photographer
• Prints of your photos or digital download link 
• A physical wedding album
• Printed canvases
• A ‘best of the day’ video

Most photographers offer a range of packages for you to choose from, with optional extras that allow you to customize your package. For a rough idea of what to expect for your budget, check out the table below:

What factors can affect the cost of a wedding photographer?

While these are general, average Canada wedding costs, there are plenty of other factors that can influence the cost of a wedding photographer. These include:

• Your venue: How far does the photographer have to travel? Will they need to take public transport, or even fly to another province? Are you based in a major city or out in the country? All of these will affect how much a photographer costs.
• Location: Where you are in Canada will impact costs. For example, photographers in Vancouver will be more expensive than those outside.
• Multiple photographers: Having multiple photographers means you have full coverage of the day both from your perspective and the perspective of your guests. It’s also a good idea for outdoor weddings in an expansive scenery,  for example Banff National Park. The more photographers there are the better the coverage will be, but the pricier it will be as well.
• The date: During peak times, such as during the summer and at weekends, you can expect to pay more due to the higher demand. Many photographers are booked months (or even years) in advance during busier times of the year. In some regions, like the Rockies, winter weddings are very popular and prices might be higher. 
• How long they’re needed: Are you only looking for photos of the ceremony itself, or the entire day, including the wedding breakfast and evening reception?
• Equipment: Will they need additional lighting, multiple lenses, or even drones?
• The level of post-production: After they shoot a wedding, the photographer will spend time editing your photos, such as adjusting lighting, cropping, or tweaking your Great Aunt’s eyes because she blinked.
• The type of album: Many photographers will offer your options to customise your album, such as leather-bound covers.

What else should you be aware of when it comes to the cost of a wedding photographer?

As part of your package and one of the questions you should ask your photographer before hiring them for your wedding, find out what type of release  they offer (complete copyright, vs a personal use/printing release) and how it aligns with your budget and needs. 

By default, your photographer will own the copyright to your wedding photos. Purchasing the copyright later can be quite expensive — there are stories of couples paying hundreds or even thousands of dollars unexpectedly. While this is uncommon, it’s something to keep in mind when making your decision. In most cases, though, you likely won’t need full copyright ownership.

Typically, a personal use license or a printing release will be more than enough for your wedding photos. This license allows you to print your photos, share them on social media, and enjoy them without the cost of buying the full copyright.

Whatever option you choose, be sure to discuss it with your photographer upfront so you’re clear on the terms. And as a courtesy, it’s always a good idea to credit your photographer when sharing photos on social media — especially if the images aren’t watermarked — to show appreciation for their work.

What level of experience can you expect for your budget?

As we’ve mentioned, pricing can vary significantly between photographers. 

Less experienced photographers often charge lower rates, but this can come with more risk. On the other hand, full-time wedding photographers, whose income depends on events like yours, typically charge more but also bring more experience to the table. Photographers who work part-time or as a side gig may offer lower prices, but the level of experience can vary.

Take a look at the table below for a general idea of what you can expect based on your budget.

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Choosing the right wedding photographer comes down to balancing your budget with the level of experience and services you’re looking for. Whether you opt for a seasoned professional or a budding talent, clear communication and understanding the terms of your contract are key to ensuring beautiful memories captured for years to come.

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An engagement party is a brilliant way to celebrate your engagement and surround yourself with your family and friends. Whether you choose to have a formal bash at a countryside hotel or an intimate barbecue in your back garden, everyone will be there to celebrate your engagement and talk about your future wedding plans.

As part of the celebrations, it’s common for there to be speeches at an engagement party to thank everyone for coming. It’s also likely that other members of your family, friends and future wedding party will want to say a few words as well, and offer you love and encouragement for the journey you’re about to take.

But what do you say in an engagement party speech? Should it be long? Funny? Lovey-dovey? Who should give a speech and do you have to give one even if you don’t want to?

In this post, we’re going to dive into everything you need to know about how to write the perfect engagement party speech so you can approach your speech with confidence and say exactly the right things.

Who gives a speech at an engagement party?

Traditionally, you should be prepared to give a short speech at your engagement party. This could be one of you or both of you, depending on who feels confident enough to stand up and speak in front of your family and friends.

If someone is hosting the party, such as the father of the bride, then it’s also common for them to thank everyone for coming.

Depending on your guests, anyone else is also more than welcome to say a few words. This could be any of your parents, a member of your wedding party (such as the best man or maid of honor), your siblings or your friends. There are no hard and fast rules at an engagement party, so if anyone would like to wish you well and congratulate you, it should be encouraged.

Do you have to give a speech at your engagement party?

While giving a speech at your engagement party isn’t mandatory, it’s a thoughtful way to thank your guests. The type of party you host can influence expectations. For a formal celebration with a full meal, DJ, and dancing, a speech will likely be anticipated. However, for a more casual gathering, like a game night with pizza and drinks, it might not be expected — but it’s still a nice touch to express your gratitude for everyone attending.

What if you’re too nervous to speak at an engagement party?

If you’re really not happy to give a speech at your engagement party, then there are no rules stating that you have to. There’s always the option to have someone do it on your behalf, such as your mom or your best man.

If you can find the courage to do so, your guests would love it if you could give a very short speech. It doesn’t have to be a 20-minute stand-up routine, just 30 seconds to thank everyone for being there to celebrate with you.

When do you give a speech at an engagement party?

Unlike a wedding, there aren’t strict rules about when to give a speech at an engagement party. It depends on the event’s tone. For a casual gathering, you might want to offer a quick thank you early on, once everyone has arrived. At a more formal affair, it’s best to give your speech either just before or after dinner, as that’s when guests are already gathered together.

Is an engagement party speech the same as a wedding speech?

Engagement party speeches and wedding speeches have a lot of similarities, but they’re not exactly the same. Read our article on wedding speech examples to see the sort of thing they include. There are a few subtle differences that mean they’re not exactly interchangeable. These include:

• The tone is more relaxed and informal in an engagement party speech. You may not even choose to write a speech, and instead speak from the heart to thank your guests for coming.
• Wedding speeches are often a lot more sentimental and emotional.
• Unlike a wedding speech, you might not choose to talk about your relationship at all and save that for the wedding. However, if others choose to speak, don’t be surprised if they talk about you a lot.
• Engagement party speeches are short, sharp and to the point, whereas wedding speeches can last a comparatively long time.

Can an engagement party speech be funny?

An engagement party speech can take any shape you like. If you want to keep it light with a few jokes, that’s great. If you prefer just a short, simple thank you, that works too.

Expect a variety of tones if others speak. The best man might go for laughs, while parents may be more sentimental. For a humorous touch, share fun anecdotes about how you met, but keep things light and avoid too many inside jokes. Balance the humor with sincerity and always finish by expressing your gratitude to the guests.

How long should your engagement party speech be?

Unlike a wedding speech, which could be as long as 10 minutes (or more, depending on the speaker) an engagement party speech is usually far shorter. Generally, you wouldn’t want to speak for more than a couple of minutes so you can save most of what you have to say for the wedding itself. The main point you should get across is how glad you are that your guests could make it to be there to celebrate with you.

What should you include in an engagement party speech?

Depending on who’s giving an engagement party speech, there’s different information you might want to include:

You’re giving a speech at your own engagement party:

• Thank everyone for coming and how much it means that they’re there to celebrate with you and your new fiance.
• Acknowledge your loved ones and the loved ones of your fiance.
• You might want to talk about the proposal and how it felt. Highlight anything funny that might have happened and make a joke out of it.
• Reference how you feel about your partner and how you’re excited to take this next step in your relationship together.
• Talk about what you have in store for your wedding. If you haven’t secured a date yet, keep this part relatively vague.
• Raise your glass and thank your guests again for being there.

You’re giving a speech at someone else’s engagement party:

• Introduce yourself and how you know the couple.
• Congratulate the couple and how excited and happy you are for them.
• Share something personal, such as an anecdote. This is a great opportunity to be funny, but keep things as positive as you can.
• Offer compliments about the strength of the couple and how great they are together.
• Express your support for the couple and offer to help them should they need it throughout their wedding planning journey.
• Acknowledge friends and family, and thank everyone for being there.
• Wish the couple luck for the future and raise a toast.

Whether you’re giving a speech at your own engagement party or someone else’s, aim to keep it light, brief, and heartfelt. Save most of your material and top jokes for the wedding itself — after all, the engagement party is just a warm-up for the big day!

Tips for writing the perfect engagement party speech

Before you sit down to think about what to say in your engagement party speech, think about these tips:

• Don’t forget to let the guests know who you are. There might be some guests you haven’t met which can be quite confusing for them.
• Don’t be afraid to be truthful and honest. You might not want to shed a tear in front of people, but it’s about two people falling in love and getting engaged – tears are practically expected.
• Don’t outstay your welcome – no one expects an engagement party speech to go on longer than two minutes or so.
• Make notes about what you want to say, and learn your speech by heart. That way, it’ll come across as more natural and not like you’re reciting lines.
• Practice, practice, practice.
• Avoid too many in-jokes. If you have to include one, try to give the rest of your guests some context.
• Short is most definitely sweet.

Engagement party speech examples

Ready to start writing your engagement party speech but need a little more inspiration to help you get started? Here are a couple of engagement party speech examples you can use as a starting block for your own.

Example 1: the humorous yet heartfelt one (for those who don’t mind public speaking):

Good evening everyone. I’m Jackson, and on behalf of my beautiful new fiance, Rebecca and I, I’d like to thank you all for coming to our engagement party. We’re so happy you could all be here tonight to celebrate with us. You all get to spend the next few hours in my company, which is a shame for you all, but you can at least be thankful you’re not Rebecca, who now gets to spend the next fifty plus years with me.

For those of you who don’t know, I proposed to Rebecca in Toronto, in the shadow of the CN Tower. Yes, cliché, I know.

Rebecca, I just wanted to say that I’m so excited about our future together. You saying yes was one of the greatest moments of my life and I know what we have in store will continuously top it. We’ve already started browsing venues and you’ve already made what will be a long and difficult challenge so much easier by just being yourself. You make me a better person and I can’t wait to undertake this journey together.

Thank you so much, everyone, for being here, it means the world to Rebecca and me. So, I’d like to raise a glass to say you’re all fantastic and we both love you all very much. Cheers!

Example 2: the short and sweet one (for those not fond of public speaking):

I just want to take a moment, on behalf of myself and my new fiance, to thank you all for coming tonight. We really appreciate everyone taking the time to come and celebrate our engagement with us. So I’d just like to raise a glass in appreciation for you all being here tonight. Thank you!

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When it comes to hosting a memorable wedding, food and drink are a huge contributing factor. Including canapés and arrival drinks, a three or four-course wedding breakfast and a spread for the evening buffet, your guests will spend a large portion of their time at your wedding enjoying some delicious food and drink.

But how much does wedding catering cost in Canada? So you know exactly how much of your budget you need to dedicate toward keeping your guests fed, watered (or wined!) and – ultimately – happy!

In this post we’re going to take a look at the average cost of catering a wedding and what can affect that cost – including the alcohol.

How does the pricing work?

The first thing you need to know is that, depending on the venue, catering can often be done in-house. But, if the venue doesn’t offer catering that suits your taste, you can hire caterers to come to your venue separately. Venues that include catering are usually priced per head, meaning there will be a set price for every guest which will include food (a buffet or sit-down meal), the venue rental and sometimes half a bottle of wine per person for the meal and some bubbly for the toasts.

If a venue is priced at a lump sum, it usually means that catering is not included and what you are paying goes towards securing the venue. For more information, check out our post on the cost of a wedding venue.

What is the average cost of catering a wedding?

How much your wedding catering costs depends entirely on how many people you’re looking to invite. The more people you invite, the more hungry mouths there will be, and of course the higher the cost will be.

In our ultimate guide to budgeting a wedding, we outlined that Canadian couples spend an average of $7,000 to $8,500 on catering. 

Of course, these numbers can vary significantly if your wedding is more intimate or more extravagant. For a wedding with around 40 guests, the average catering cost will be approximately $4,500, while for a 160-guest wedding, you’re looking at around $18,000.

This is based on averages, but depending on your budget, there’s a range of options available:

• Affordable: $35 – $70 per guest
• Moderate: $70 – $105 per guest
• Luxury: $105 – $140 per guest
• Super luxury: $140+ per guest

Is it cheaper per head the more guests there are?

You may expect the price per head to reduce depending on the greater the number of guests there are, but this isn’t always the case when it comes to catering a wedding. It will usually depend on several factors, including the venue, the number of kitchen and wait staff required, and the dining style.

For example, the price per head will be cheaper if you provide buffet-style food or food trucks than it would with a four-course meal, regardless of how many guests are attending.

How much does a wedding breakfast cost?

If you choose to include a formal wedding breakfast, it will likely be one of the most expensive parts of your reception. Typically, these multi-course meals are handled with precision, resembling a well-organized restaurant service — hence the higher cost.

The average cost for a wedding breakfast ranges from $50 to $70 per guest, though high-end venues or caterers can charge more than double that amount.

How much does an evening buffet cost?

An evening buffet is a more relaxed option, offering a variety of dishes and requiring fewer servers, which makes it more budget-friendly. It’s also a great way to satisfy guests who only attend the evening portion of your celebration.

The average buffet cost typically ranges from $35 to $50 per guest. However, prices can vary depending on the type of food, with simpler dishes like chicken and fries being more affordable than premium options like sushi or fancy canapés. 

What else can affect the cost of catering a wedding?

The above costs are all averages, and you’ll make plenty of choices that will make that cost go either down or way (WAY) up. These include:

• Style of service: the cost of a buffet, sit-down meal, or food truck can vary hugely. For example, for a sit-down meal, you would have to factor in the wages and tips of the waiters (it’s recommended to have 1 per 11 guests) and a buffet would have a wider selection of food options. 
• Menu choice: The more options you offer your guests outside of the standard meat, fish or vegetarian/vegan, the more you’re likely to pay.
• The venue: Does it have its own catering team? If you’re hiring a catering team separate from the venue, you may also need to factor in the cost of hiring a marquee and portable kitchen. These costs can quickly add up, adding several thousand to the cost of your catering. Some venues have a list of preferred caterers, so make sure you ask your chosen wedding venue if there are limitations.
• The food: Some food is cheaper to make than others. If you’re keen to offer oysters and caviar, don’t be surprised if it’s more expensive than if you were to offer sandwiches and poutine.
• The ingredients: Some caterers may offer premium ingredients, and if imported or organic produce is important to you then expect to pay a little extra.
• The number of courses: Are you happy with a three-course meal, or would you like to offer hors d’oeuvres, a fish course, palate-cleansing sorbets, and mignardise? The more courses there are (and the more complex they are to make) the pricier it will be.
• The date: You can expect to pay higher rates during peak times, such as during the summer and at weekends.

What about the alcohol?

While it’s tempting to offer an open bar, this can quickly become very costly, especially since guests often enjoy several drinks at weddings. Many Canadian couples opt for a more budget-friendly approach: providing a bottle or two of wine per table, plus some sparkling wine for toasts. Guests can then purchase additional drinks from a cash bar.

If you bring your own wine or bubbly, venues may charge a corkage fee, typically ranging from $8 to $15 per bottle.

You’ll also need to consider alcohol licensing for your wedding venue. Most venues will already have a liquor licence, but if you plan to serve alcohol in a location without one (like a private property), you’ll need to apply for a Special Occasion Permit (SOP). These permits vary by province but are commonly issued by provincial liquor boards (e.g., the Liquor Control Board of Ontario).

Make sure to check provincial laws on service and consumption, as rules around hours, quantities, and types of alcohol can vary.

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The father of the bride speech is a highly anticipated part of a wedding reception where the father of the bride addresses the all the guests and offers words of congratulations, gratitude, and well wishes to the newlyweds. It’s no wonder that many fathers of the bride get a little nervous at the thought of delivering a speech to their nearest and dearest, so let’s have a closer look at all you need to know about writing and delivering a brilliant father of the bride speech.

What is a father of the bride’s speech?

The father of the bride speech typically is given after the meal, during the wedding reception. It’s a show of love for the bride, as well as giving words of advice to the couple. The father of the bride speech is often an important moment for the father to show his support and affection for his daughter, and to welcome the groom into the family. It also serves as an opportunity for the father to express his gratitude to the guests for their participation at the wedding.

How should I write the perfect father of the bride speech?

There are three key stages to crafting the perfect Father of the Bride speech –  preparation, content and delivery and we are here to walk you through each step.

Preparing the father of the bride speech

Planning and preparation are crucial for delivering a successful father of the bride speech. It allows you to organize your thoughts and ideas, and to structure the speech in a way that flows naturally and makes sense to the audience. It also gives you the chance to tailor the speech to the audience, so that it’s appropriate and relevant to the guests.

By taking the time to plan and prepare for the speech, you can ensure your words are well-received and that the speech is a memorable and meaningful part of the wedding celebration.

When it comes to researching and gathering information for your wedding day, let’s have a look at some tried and tested ways to help you begin your speech writing journey.

• Start early – The earlier you start preparing for your speech, the more time you’ll have to think about what you want to say and how you want to say it.
• Talk to your daughter – Your daughter will be a great source of inspiration and material for your speech. She can tell you about the special moments and memories she shares with you and her partner, and give you an insight into their relationship.
• Talk to your future son-in-law – It’s also a good idea to talk to your daughter’s partner and get to know them better. You could ask them about their thoughts on marriage, future plans with your daughter and what they love about her.
• Find wedding speech inspiration – Look back at old family albums, videos, and pictures: It can be a great source of inspiration for the speech and can even be incorporated into the speech itself.
• Check out other father of the bride speech examples – There are countless examples of father of the bride speeches that you can look at for inspiration, just be sure not to directly copy any work you find.

By doing this, you will be able to gather a wealth of material that you can use to craft a heartfelt speech that truly captures the love and affection you have for your daughter.

As the father of the bride, what should I include in my wedding speech?

Writing a father of the bride speech can feel daunting, but it’s actually straightforward. There are a few key elements to include, and most speeches follow a familiar structure. Focus on these essentials, and you won’t go wrong.

Typically, a father of the bride speech includes the following:

• Well wishes for the newlyweds – Start by congratulating the couple on their marriage.
• Personal anecdotes and memories – Share personal stories and memories of your daughter that show your guests more of her character and upbringing.
• Expressions of pride – Let your daughter know how proud you are of the person she has become and how much you love her.
• Welcome the groom into the family – Formally welcome the groom into your family, and express your happiness that he will be a part of your daughter’s life.
• Thank the guests – Show your gratitude to the guests for being a part of the special day.
• Offer words of advice or wisdom for the couple – Share any words of wisdom or advice you have for the couple as they begin their life together.
• Toast to the couple – End your speech by raising a toast to the couple and wishing them a lifetime of love.

Father of the bride speech examples

It’s important to make the father of the bride speech your own and not rely wholly on just one source of inspiration.

To get you started, here a few examples of quotes that you could include in your father of the bride speech. You’ll find longer examples here. 

• “I’ve always known that my daughter would find someone special, but I never imagined she would find someone as amazing as [partner’s name].”
• “I’m so grateful to have [partner’s name] as an in-law. He has not only won my daughter’s heart, but mine too.”
• “To my beautiful daughter, [bride’s name], I couldn’t be happier for you on your special day”.
• “You have grown into an amazing woman, and I am so proud of the person you have become.”
• “I want to welcome you to our family. You have brought so much love and happiness into our daughter’s life, and we are grateful to have you as part of our family.”
• “A wise man once said, ‘The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved; loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves.’ And that is exactly how [bride’s name] and [partner’s name] make each other feel.”

Should I write a funny father of the bride speech?

Speech delivery

Delivering your speech well shows your love and support for your daughter. The father of the bride speech is typically one of the first speeches of the reception, and it sets the tone for the rest of the event. A well-delivered speech can help to create a positive and excited atmosphere that will be enjoyed by all the guests.

Practise your father of the bride speech

Practicing your father of the bride speech is extremely important because it allows you to become more comfortable with the material and delivery of your speech. When you practice, you will be able to identify areas that need improvement and make necessary adjustments before the big day.

Beat the nerves

Giving any speech, especially at a big event like your daughters wedding, can be nerve-wracking, but there are some things you can do to help calm your nerves and deliver your speech with confidence.

1. Prepare thoroughly: The more prepared you are, the more confident you will feel. Practise your speech out loud and in front of friends and family.
2. Use positive visualisation: Close your eyes and picture yourself delivering your speech with confidence and ease. Imagine the guests clapping and enjoying your speech.
3. Take deep breaths: Before you begin your speech, take a few deep breaths to help calm your nerves. This will also help to steady your voice and slow down your heart rate.
4. Speak slowly: If you’re feeling nervous, it’s easy to rush through your speech. Speak slowly and clearly, and pause between sentences to give yourself time to gather your thoughts.
5. Make eye contact: Make sure to make eye contact with different members of the audience. This will help to engage them and make them feel more included in your speech.
6. Practice, practice, practice: Did we mention… practice?!

A well-crafted and delivered father of the bride speech can set the tone for the celebration, create a bond with the guests, and leave a lasting impression. Putting in the effort to prepare will ensure everything goes smoothly on the big day. The key ingredients are preparation, practice, and confident delivery. By following these guidelines, you’ll deliver a heartfelt, meaningful, and unforgettable speech that will be cherished by everyone.

Need Tips & Advice?

If you are looking for advice on how to write a Father of the Bride speech, you’ve come to the right place. You are the Father of the Bride – your girl’s wedding day is such a special day! When you held your child for the first time all those years ago, did you picture this day? 

Well now it’s here and as her father, you will (traditionally) be the first to stand up and speak in front of the guests. But don’t worry! Follow our carefully selected tips and deliver a father of the bride toast to remember! If your daughter is also making a speech, tell her to check out our examples of bride speech!

1) Welcome the guests:

It is your job to welcome everyone to the reception and acknowledge all those who have financially contributed to the wedding (probably best not to mention actual sums!). It is also a good idea to give a special welcome to the guests who came from other provinces, and maybe even from abroad, to be there and thank them for participating in the celebration.

2) The thank you’s:

Thank everyone who helped put this wedding together, the ushers, the bridesmaids, even the staff! You can also thank the special people in your daughter’s life, who helped raise her and make her who she is today! Take a trip down memory lane and remember your loved ones. 

3) Praise the bride:

We find that every father-daughter relationship is different, some are more humorous, with plenty of banter, others are more sentimental and this is exactly what should be reflected in the overall tone of your speech. This section will require the most planning, so separate it into sub-sections: talk about the stories from your daughter’s childhood, about her achievements in her personal, academic and professional lives. Lastly, tell her how proud you are of the woman she has become and how gorgeous she looks on her wedding day.

4) Welcome the new additions to your family:

You should also welcome the groom and his parents into your family.  Many Fathers also take this opportunity to tell the groom what he has got himself into: this is the funny part of your speech, where you can joke about the bride. Talk about your daughter’s adorable little quirks and lighten the mood after the more emotional part of your speech.

We also think it’s a nice touch when the Father of the Bride talks about the groom – whether that be the first time you were introduced, or when the groom asked for your daughter’s hand in marriage, or just some funny moments or nice traits. Want to help your future son-in-law out? Send him our tips to the groom: writing your wedding speech!

5) A word of wisdom:

Finish with some advice to the newlyweds. This is a great time to mention your personal marriage experience and what you’ve learnt about love and family. If you don’t want to go down that route, then carefully chosen quotes about love and marriage can be just as effective. Whatever you decide to say, make sure to do so clearly and calmly, as the audience want to hear from you! We find that gesticulating when talking can ease the nerves too.

6) The toast:

End your speech by asking everyone in the room to stand up and toast the newlyweds!

And here is our Final Tip:

Don’t act the Alpha Male and threaten to hunt down the groom if he misbehaves! This never sounds as funny to the groom…

Sneaky tool: Calculate how long your speech will take to read – http://readtime.eu!

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When it comes to planning your wedding, there will be plenty of important choices to make – ranging from the enormous to the teeny tiny. Many of these choices will be optional, but one of the biggest will be making sure you choose the right venue. After all, it’s where you and your guests will spend the entire day and can’t be changed once the big day arrives.

As you work out your wedding budget, you’ll need to make sure you dedicate enough toward your ideal venue. Whether it’s a hotel, a golf course, a vineyard, a village hall, or anywhere else you want to marry that special someone, you’ll need to budget accordingly. 

Below, we’re going to take a look at the average cost of a wedding venue, what’s included in that cost, and any unexpected fees you should look out for.

How much does the average wedding venue cost?

With the average total cost of a wedding in Canada rising to $30,000 over a third of that cost is likely to go towards the venue. In 2024, the average cost of a wedding venue is around $8,000-9,500. Of course, this figure can vary dramatically depending on different factors, including the type of venue and where in the country the venue is located.

For example, on average, venues are $2,000 to $3,000 more expensive in Vancouver than in Montreal. However, that’s not to say that one is better than the other – it’s all a matter of taste, what’s right for you, and how far you and your guests want to travel.

How can the cost of a wedding venue vary?

There’s a range of wedding venues available across Canada, so whatever your budget you shouldn’t have any trouble finding something to your taste:

• Affordable: $3,000 – $8,000
• Moderate: $8,000 – $15,000
• Luxury: $15,000 – $22,000
• Super luxury: $22,000+

How does the type of venue affect the cost?

The type of wedding venue you choose affects the price, with certain types of venue costing significantly more than others on average. According to our 2024 Wedding Reports, couples are more likely to spend the most on venues for weddings at castles, stately homes and country houses, and the least on registry offices, places of worship and restaurants.

Here’s a breakdown of the average cost depending on the venue type, based on data gathered from couples planning their wedding on our platform in 2024:

• Castle: $20,000 – $25,000
• Stately home: $18,000 – $22,000
• Country house: $16,000 – $20,000
• Golf course: $14,000 – $18,000
• Event venue: $9,000 – $13,000
• Hotel: $11,000 – $14,000
• Barn: $9,000 – $12,000
• Outdoor: $9,000 – $11,000
• City venue: $10,000 – $12,000
• Restaurant: $8,000 – $10,000
• Place of worship: $7,000 – $9,000
• Registry office: $2,000 – $3,000

What does the cost of a wedding venue include?

The cost of the venue will include rental of the space itself, however, it can also include additions and the use of certain facilities, such as:

• Tables and chairs
• Linens, such as tablecloths, napkins and chair covers
• Lighting and sound
• Wine and bubbles for the tables
• Bar services
• Catering
• Coordination and setup

Exactly what’s included in the cost of the venue is something that you’ll need to confirm with the venue. For example, some venues won’t have catering facilities and will require you to arrange your own vendors. 

Why are wedding venues so expensive?

Mark Dawson, the former owner and operator of Brookfield Barn in England and expert on all things venue-related, explains why wedding venues are often so expensive:

“Couples benefit from being “one-time customers” that venues are trying to attract and therefore price is a key lever. The venue market has become extremely competitive with diminishing margins. So many features at the top of couples’ lists come with high maintenance costs. For example, listed and historic buildings, extensive grounds. Remember you are paying such that the venue is maintained in a way to be at its best on your big day – and every other couple has the same expectation.”

“Exclusivity on your day means you are the sole revenue stream for the venue. So when faced with budget challenges, take time to prioritise what is most important. Is it exclusivity on the day for your wedding, is it the historic setting, is it the extensive grounds, is it having it for multiple days to set up and clear up, is it having lots of staff support from the venue for planning it all – they all drive the price point that the venue needs to continue to operate.”

What factors can affect the cost of a wedding venue?

We’ve already highlighted how the type and location can affect the cost of a venue, but there are plenty of factors that can contribute towards how much you might pay for your dream venue.

Size

Naturally, the higher the number of guests you’d like to invite, the larger the venue will need to be. Of course, it makes sense that a venue with a 30-person capacity will usually be more affordable than one that can accommodate several hundred.

Region

Where you are in Canada significantly affects how much you’ll pay for a wedding venue. For example, couples in major cities like Vancouver or Toronto tend to pay around 30-50% more than the national average. In contrast, venues in smaller towns or rural areas, like those in the Prairies or Eastern Canada, are typically much more affordable. 

Dates

As you might imagine, venue prices vary depending on the season. When it comes to choosing a wedding date, spring, summer, and even fall dates are more popular than winter. As a result, you’ll likely find that it’s more affordable to secure a date in January or February than it is in July or August.

Similarly, Fridays and the weekend – particularly Saturday – are more expensive than weekdays, as well as specific dates like Valentine’s Day or New Year’s Eve.

It may be possible to grab a bargain if you’re open to a last-minute booking during off-peak times or based on a cancellation – though this risks you missing out by catching vendors and guests off-guard. Here at Bridebook, we offer late availability deals at many of our partner venues – just filter by ‘Special Offers’ when searching for a wedding venue.

Packages

The majority of wedding venues will have packages that can include anything from a glass of bubbly for the guests on arrival to a free stay for the newlyweds on the night. If you definitely don’t want one of these, you can ask your chosen venue if they can exclude some items to give you a lower price.

Catering

According to recent data on Canadian weddings, a significant portion of couples prefer venues that include catering as part of their package. For example, in cities like Vancouver and Toronto, many popular venues offer all-inclusive packages that bundle catering, often resulting in a higher overall cost. Venues that include catering can increase the total spend by several thousand dollars. In Canada, couples typically spend $10,000 to $15,000 on venues with catering, which is significantly more than choosing a venue-only option where external catering is brought in. Venues without catering are often the cheaper option if you’re only considering the venue cost.

Exclusive use

Exclusive use of the wedding venue means that you and your guests will be the only ones on the premises during your special day, so you don’t need to worry about anybody accidentally stumbling in and helping themselves to the buffet. Normally, venues that offer exclusivity will charge slightly more, but it’s definitely worth it.

What are some unexpected costs or fees at a venue?

When speaking with the venue, you should clarify early on what is and isn’t covered, otherwise you may find yourselves being hit with one or two (or six or seven!) surprise costs that can cause your budget to spiral.

Some potential hidden fees to be mindful of include:

• Taxes
• Gratuities
• Security deposit to cover loss and damages
• Cleaning fees
• Insurance
• Overtime fees
• Corkage fees

How much does it cost to decorate a wedding venue?

Once you’ve chosen your venue and signed on the dotted line, there may be additional costs to bear in mind to make sure it’s decorated to perfectly match your tastes. Decoration hire, such as unique lighting and features, may not be included in the cost and is another cost to factor into your budget.

Have you discovered your dream venue? 

Are you planning your wedding and umming and ahhing over the perfect venue? Bridebook’s wedding planning tools provide you with everything you need to plan your wedding stress-free!

And if you’re looking for ways to save money on your wedding venue, we’ve got plenty of money-saving tips to help you stay firmly within your budget.

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Happy Planning!